"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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lizardking82

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One thing I have learned from my persona communications with women, but not only women, just people in general...never resort to their tactics or their ways.

Some members here think it is good to "take as much time as she takes to respond". Scratch that. Games are useless. Games are for gamers. Not for Don Juans. Don Juans do not give a damn about playing games. She took 2 days to respond? 2 weeks? Doesn't matter how long she took, it matters how you feel about it. A man that is a leader of his life and the events in it does not care about impressing some woman or some person by "looking busy". If you do that, you're coming from a place of resentment and while that is a human emotion, it is not a human emotion of someone who is doing well in their life overall.

Do you wanna answer right away? Do so. Do you wanna answer later? Do. You don't feel like answering? Don't. JUST, please, for your own sake and your personality's sake...do not answer 2 days after just to make it seem like you're busy. That is just a lie you feed to yourself that "you're the prize". No, you're not the prize if you have to fake answering 2 days later just to seem busy. You're a wannabe of the prize and faking it until you make it works in some areas of life, but it doesn't work in your character. Women, people, they see through bull****. Some sooner, some later, they will see you're fake.

Be honorable to yourself. Instead of faking being busy, get busy for real. Instead of faking not wanting to answer, just listen to your gut feeling and you will know when you should answer and when not. No games, no trying to impress her or anyone else. Be real, be you. It sounds easy, it is not. Hope everyone is doing good and some are doing better :)
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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ImTheDoubleGreatest!

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Lol if a chick doesn’t answer by the end of the day then it’s disinterest. Plain and simple. I wouldn’t even try to do anything with her at that point and forget about her existence. **** her then, that’s just being a ****ty human being lol.

Keep in mind though lizarking, that this concept of doing whatever the **** you wanna do is an advanced one. You still have to make sure that your actions are still congruent with your words.
 

ohrein

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I think it's necessary early on to fake a lot of things. You're completely right that you won't be authentic if you fake it and you should aim to get to the place where you truly are busy and don't care. But, sometimes fake it 'til you make it isn't terrible advice. The long play is always to be a confident guy who doesn't play games, plays by his rules, knows what he wants and isn't afraid to go for it. But that takes a lot of work. Aim for it and on your journey, try to fake being the guy you want to be so you can learn.
 
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