I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Acq said:I dont have "friends" but I have buddies, many of them, the whole idea of being "friends" with someone is absurd, since obviously people become "friends" for a reason, to gain attention, company or something materialistic. So why bother
I don't even have buddies it's a shame. A little embarassing but it's the truth. I would even settle for a good buddy right now. I don't want attention, I do have a cool new phone. The problem with my phone is I really don't have anybody to text me. I'm not even lonely right now. My granddad passed away two weeks ago without anybody buy close family caring and I want more then that when I die. I want some buddies.Acq said:I dont have "friends" but I have buddies, many of them, the whole idea of being "friends" with someone is absurd, since obviously people become "friends" for a reason, to gain attention, company or something materialistic. So why bother
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
A lot of my old friends from school moved from here. It is so much easier to make friends when you are young. I do have one buddy that I never call and he never calls me and another that moved. Anyways I just don't think I really know how to make friends with guys. Women love me guys not so much. I'm working on not being such a nice guy but I don't know.Iceberg said:...Or because you genuinely like the person. Hell, two guys that I met on the first day of first grade are two of my best friends. I don't think there was anything "materialistic" about that.
Man, some of you guys are real downers.
fun to converse with? what can they possibly know that you have heard of yet or cant reasearch online by yourself? or maybe they like to make retarded jokes about the amount of alcohol they consumed the other night when watching a hockey game?How about I have friends because they are fun to be around and converse with? No one becomes REAL friends through some materialistic B/S.
So that's whan I want to just be able to say hey man guess what happened. Or man I'm bout to go out and... That seems hard, I'm a certain complexation and not a lot of guys of my complexation would want to do the things I do. Workout go to school play video games females you know living.RSanders219 said:How about I have friends because they are fun to be around and converse with? No one becomes REAL friends through some materialistic B/S.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Sounds good, ya know I just wouldn't want to come off as weird if I said "hey want to hang out". Know what I mean, I am intrested in mma and just working out in general. Thanks for the help MMF.MartyMcFly said:Man, friends aren't that tough to find. Just start frequenting something like a bar or join some kind of class you're interested in. You'll make friends in no time.
Dude, MMA would be a great way to find some cool guys to hang with. And as a bonus, chicks love that ****! :rockon:JustWuzzle said:Sounds good, ya know I just wouldn't want to come off as weird if I said "hey want to hang out". Know what I mean, I am intrested in mma and just working out in general. Thanks for the help MMF.
I was thinking of taking a class this summer. I've been putting that off. That is If I don't got back to the military. I had quite a few friends in the Army, I loved itMartyMcFly said:Dude, MMA would be a great way to find some cool guys to hang with. And as a bonus, chicks love that ****! :rockon:
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You were in the Army?! Holy **** dude, its funny because I'm currently serving!JustWuzzle said:I was thinking of taking a class this summer. I've been putting that off. That is If I don't got back to the military. I had quite a few friends in the Army, I loved it