You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Acq said:I dont have "friends" but I have buddies, many of them, the whole idea of being "friends" with someone is absurd, since obviously people become "friends" for a reason, to gain attention, company or something materialistic. So why bother
I don't even have buddies it's a shame. A little embarassing but it's the truth. I would even settle for a good buddy right now. I don't want attention, I do have a cool new phone. The problem with my phone is I really don't have anybody to text me. I'm not even lonely right now. My granddad passed away two weeks ago without anybody buy close family caring and I want more then that when I die. I want some buddies.Acq said:I dont have "friends" but I have buddies, many of them, the whole idea of being "friends" with someone is absurd, since obviously people become "friends" for a reason, to gain attention, company or something materialistic. So why bother
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
A lot of my old friends from school moved from here. It is so much easier to make friends when you are young. I do have one buddy that I never call and he never calls me and another that moved. Anyways I just don't think I really know how to make friends with guys. Women love me guys not so much. I'm working on not being such a nice guy but I don't know.Iceberg said:...Or because you genuinely like the person. Hell, two guys that I met on the first day of first grade are two of my best friends. I don't think there was anything "materialistic" about that.
Man, some of you guys are real downers.
fun to converse with? what can they possibly know that you have heard of yet or cant reasearch online by yourself? or maybe they like to make retarded jokes about the amount of alcohol they consumed the other night when watching a hockey game?How about I have friends because they are fun to be around and converse with? No one becomes REAL friends through some materialistic B/S.
So that's whan I want to just be able to say hey man guess what happened. Or man I'm bout to go out and... That seems hard, I'm a certain complexation and not a lot of guys of my complexation would want to do the things I do. Workout go to school play video games females you know living.RSanders219 said:How about I have friends because they are fun to be around and converse with? No one becomes REAL friends through some materialistic B/S.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Sounds good, ya know I just wouldn't want to come off as weird if I said "hey want to hang out". Know what I mean, I am intrested in mma and just working out in general. Thanks for the help MMF.MartyMcFly said:Man, friends aren't that tough to find. Just start frequenting something like a bar or join some kind of class you're interested in. You'll make friends in no time.
Dude, MMA would be a great way to find some cool guys to hang with. And as a bonus, chicks love that ****! :rockon:JustWuzzle said:Sounds good, ya know I just wouldn't want to come off as weird if I said "hey want to hang out". Know what I mean, I am intrested in mma and just working out in general. Thanks for the help MMF.
I was thinking of taking a class this summer. I've been putting that off. That is If I don't got back to the military. I had quite a few friends in the Army, I loved itMartyMcFly said:Dude, MMA would be a great way to find some cool guys to hang with. And as a bonus, chicks love that ****! :rockon:
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You were in the Army?! Holy **** dude, its funny because I'm currently serving!JustWuzzle said:I was thinking of taking a class this summer. I've been putting that off. That is If I don't got back to the military. I had quite a few friends in the Army, I loved it