"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Eternal_water

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Blinkers said:
Interesting thread…
So can you join in/ would you benefit from the No Fapping challenge even if you get some tail regularly (at least once a week)
No fap/porn is aimed at helping 2 groups of people.

Those with erectile dysfunction and those who can't get sex/girls.

IF you are getting sex each week who cares whether you fap or not.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I haven't wanked/Fapped since April. I've had sex several times, but haven't ejaculated.

The mentality behind deciding to stop wan*ing was - well it felt seedy & I felt I was better than that. I wouldn't of been happy say for example if I w*nked then a couple days later didn't perform in bed with a woman as good as I would have done if I hadn't wan*ed.

I probs deserve a medal for keeping my load in this long!
 

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Lol. It just didn't happen & yeah it sure feels that way!
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Aaand I blew it. Starting over.

Day 1 - 1-8-2014
 
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Lolol ^^

I don't watch porn period! Porn is the culprit not masturbation. I do not fap and have not in a long time. I, was however getting laid twice a week (f-buddy) but that has been over for

three weeks and I'm still solid. Porn has so much negative effect that it is unbelievable. You know looking at pics for example Chive is better than porn cuz you'd be working your imagination rather

than getting to see whatever you want. Who so ever does edging and what not quit that entirely, it is worse. What ever I said , you can google it and see for yourself.
 

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still holding on here, a week and a half strong. No real appreciable difference for me yet.
 

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Alright guys!

Day 2!

This is the first time I have tried to quit fapping probably since I was in 8th grade. So about 7 years.

I am extremely excited to see how this pans out and what types of changes this will bring to the plate emotionally, physically, psychological.

I have one quick question to you mates:

Without fapping, how hard will it be to last long with a girl?

I ask this because I have s3x every month or so, somtimes I get a chick that i sleep with many times within a month. So basically I do not want to be the guy who lasts like 2 minutes because I have beat the meat

haha well regardless I'm in it for the long haul. At least 6 months to get the full effect of this experiment.

This will be a hard journey.

Day 2
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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you should watch the video again..

The guy scientifically explains why s3x and masturbation are completely different, and how each one triggers different reward areas in the brains and releases different chemicals.

He explains how fapping can be detrimental to ones life and how the use of porn or porn addiction can lead to erectile dysfunction and lead to symptoms of depression, social anxiety, ocd etc.

He also explains how sex does nothing of the matter because it serves a completely different biological function.

So yea dude, personally I think eliminating fap out of your life even if you have s3x is still beneficial and still is apt to work.
 

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narcissist said:
Alright guys!

Day 2!

This is the first time I have tried to quit fapping probably since I was in 8th grade. So about 7 years.

I am extremely excited to see how this pans out and what types of changes this will bring to the plate emotionally, physically, psychological.

I have one quick question to you mates:

Without fapping, how hard will it be to last long with a girl?

I ask this because I have s3x every month or so, somtimes I get a chick that i sleep with many times within a month. So basically I do not want to be the guy who lasts like 2 minutes because I have beat the meat

haha well regardless I'm in it for the long haul. At least 6 months to get the full effect of this experiment.

This will be a hard journey.

Day 2
you can always go for round 2 if you blow it early. Honestly i think chicks appreciate the animalistic fvucking that comes from a dude who cant hold back. Do some good forplay so she is plenty warmed up and give it to her. If she wants more, recharge and go again. I see no issue here.

I used to do mini no-fap challenges with my LTR chick, and the sex was better if I hadn't blown it in a while, even if it was sometimes shorter.
 

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I was good for 2 weeks but then I slipped on Tuesday. No fap is so hard if you don't have a gf….
 

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I think I am at day 8, definitely was feeling really cloudy and annoyed at everything on my drive in to work. Also starting to get pretty damn randy. Its already motivated me to get out in public more where I can see females.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Day 3 of no fap.

feel fine. no urge at all really.

im sure the urge with drastically increase as the days go on.
 

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day 10 i think. doing good so far. keeping up a rhythm to my madness. I do know the day I screw up that rhythm by just a razor thin margin is the day I go down for the count.
 

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I think I'm at day 10, and holy-eff I'm I can really tell now. I recently re-signed up for a facebook account after not having one for a few years. Got a bump of friend requests from a bunch of people including this chick who I always thought was a super mega cutie. We used to casually flirt at friends parties, but we were both in LTR's. Just seeing her picture pretty much set me off! I think shes single now, have no idea what her IL is, or if there ever was any, but I wish I would run into her and find out!!
The no fap thing does seem to spark extra motivation.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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