Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
crossedup said:You seem to be feeling better, that's great man and I'm glad you were able to show her a fun sexy time! Looks like she can't wait to get some more!
Myself, head still hurts, tho I did get a boner this morning. The sign of better things to come? Certainly, anthing is better than this dull but constant headache. Now I just need to find some girls...
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Once the body's radar notices that there is an excessive amount of testosterone in the body, it will say... HEY, WAIT A MINUTE. TOO MUCH POWER. SHUT DOWN! PREVENT OVERLOAD!! DANGER WILL ROBINSON, DANGER. It immediately shut down it's production. You may become depressed, you'll get lower energy and confidence! But in a while, your body will re-loop it, on and on again. You may become sort of bipolar now. There's a lot of factors in this, but anyway, I suggest you to consider jacking off bro. This proves that the virtude is in the middle...Mr.SomeoneElse said:She lives like 25 minutes away from my apartment
and for SOME reason i didnt want to drive to pick her up haha.
See?Mr.SomeoneElse said:Day 23.
Since I had sex I stopped feeling withdrawals but I have also noticed a huge decrease in sex drive.
Really weird.
NOFap/NoPorn currently I feel virtually un-affected. No urges, desire, anything. I almost look back and find it weird that I did that before.
Not sure if the sex affected a lot of this, but yeah, my sex drive is definitely low.
I kill three birds with one stone! Go DR GROOVY, YOU'RE ON FIRE. YOU GET LESS TESTOSTERONE- LESS EMOTIONAL BOOSTS. But you preserved brain power since you haven't ejaculated in a while. What is in semen that can make you concentrate? Hmm! Let me see some answers.blind_one said::cheer: It's been almost 5 weeks now :cheer:
I stopped having those emotional 'boosts' that I think I was recieving or I just got used to them. I feel like I could get some puzzy from this or that girl I'm interracting with but they don't appeal to me on any other level then that so I'm not really going that road : /, plus they are of average looks.
Still my thinking is sharp and clear just as I like it![]()
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
haha! No man I really want to see that now though hahahametamorphose said:Has anyone seen the Seinfeld episode where George stops having sex and suddenly he gets super smart and productive? All I can think about while scrolling this thread.
Can I at least watch TV shows? Or should I abstain everything media related and just expect the real thing?Eternal_water said:I'm in day 9.
bcolon, don't look at any porn sites at all, don't look at any hot youtube videos and don't even look at photos of hot girls.
Anything girls that you see should be real ones, it will make it a lot easier.
Looking at photos will escalate to eventual porn and masterbation.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.