"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Darth

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So I'm in the dining hall, getting a knife, fork, etc. And this really cute blonde with glasses comes up beside me and said something like, "I wonder where the forks are?" Poor thing. They were only right in front of her...

So I turned and said, "I think they're right over here." And she looked up and gave me the biggest smile and the deepest eye contact I've ever seen. I smiled and walked away.

AAAAAHHHHH!!!!!!

I don't think well on my feet. I should've said something, anything, to keep the conversation.

Something like, "Actually, those aren't forks. I don't know where they are. Why don't we go look for them in the other room?"

I was trying to think of a rational reason to keep the conversation going, but what was required was a stupid one. Like her stupid question. I'm just not quick enough on my feet.

Missed opportunities where the girl approaches are the worst feeling in the world.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Why should you make up sh!t to keep her in a conversation with you? You can continue the conversation in any manner you see fit. You just have to have the gonads to do so. There ain't a damn thing wrong with showing a woman you're interested. Women do it to men all the time, and do you think men have problem with it? No, they don't. How do women do it? By flirting. So, flirt.

You need no excuse to talk to a woman except for the fact that you are a man and you like women. That's the only excuse you need.
 

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You're right. After she gave me that look that was a bright green light.

I wanted to be direct, but I couldn't think of what to say. Afterwards I realized I should have said anything. No excuses needed.

Even, "Do I know you?" would've worked.

Stupid, stupid, stupid.
 

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Don't dwell on it. Just envision what you'd do right the next time it happens so you train your brain on the good stuff and don't reinforce the bad.

And yes, I've gotten brain lock like that as well. The usual approach I get is the good old "Do I know you?"

I used to fumble around pretty bad for something to say in order to keep the conversation going.
 

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Oh man...I was tackle-hugged from behind by a girl I worked with one time in college and I froze up like a deer in the headlights.
AAAAAHHHHH!!!!!!

I don't think well on my feet. I should've said something, anything, to keep the conversation.
Missed opportunities where the girl approaches are the worst feeling in the world.
Join the club, brother.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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