Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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No drinking and approach 30 day challenge

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I've found that I waste entirely too much money and time on drinking. I'd like to do a 30 day challenge where I approach at least 1 HB a day and don't drink at all. I've had success with this over the past few months (reading/no facebook/working out/decluttering), but this challenge seems to be the one I've psyched myself up for. I feel like I'm going to struggle finding interesting things to do on the weekends. I usually go to a sports bar and chill and overeat/drink.

Any advice on finding cool weekend activities that won't make me want to drink and generally overspend? I've got to get out of the house, but I don't want to break the bank.

Thanks
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Golden Arms

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Sure.

Off the top of my head:

Gym
Hiking
Skiing/snowboarding (if you live near any resorts)
Jogging/running
Visiting the library
Going out to eat
Movies
Concerts
Museum
Sports events

And lastly, of course, you can still go to bars and whatever and just have a diet coke instead of your usual
 

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Activities for the introvert:

Cooking (start out with easy and healthy stuff)
Reading ( zenhabits.net )
Chess
Learning how to play an instrument
Getting better at stuff ( Training )
Cleaning / Tidying up your place
Painting
Drilling walls
Fixing something that has been waiting on you
Redecorating your apartment
Doing laundry
Going out for a walk
Meditation
Doing nothing
Exercising at home (Pull-ups/Push-ups/Crunches)
Creating a habit
Watching Documentaries/ TV Shows
 

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Good stuff. I really need to get out of the mindset of having to go drink to meet people. Too often I end up getting to the point that I'm too drunk to have a normal interaction with a girl.
 

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Do you really? Then yea that's a problem. Go do your cold approaches elsewhere while sober. I like that you are putting yourself out there daily with these approaches.

Go do some other things with your weekend free time like they said above, do some frisbee golfing, real golf or tennis, cycling, go out and get coffee as opposed to vodka, hit up a shooting range (something I should've done more of), take BJJ classes or whatever martial art of your choice.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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