No counter, but with a good reason?

[fanatic22]

Me: (no plans but assuming the sale) Great, I’ll pick you up at 7:30 tomorrow

Her: Lol well I have the flu so there’s no way I’m leaving my apartment

On the one hand, no counteroffer so part of me wants to kill the convo with a short response, but it could be kind of hard for her to counter when she’s sick and probably doesn’t know when she’ll feel better. I was thinking “Ok, feel better” and then leaving the convo.

If it matters, I fvcked this girl on Sunday but I felt like there was a good chance it’d be a ONS.

 

[derby1]

Read and dont reply...let her insecureness message you in 4 days when its wondering if its still desired

Cheeky ***** putting lol to start her convo. When you've invited her out

 

[fanatic22]

Read and dont reply...let her insecureness message you in 4 days when its wondering if its still desired

Cheeky ***** putting lol to start her convo. When you've invited her out

Im not reading much into the “lol” because she’s one of those texters who says it before/after every message

 

[derby1]

No what your doing is sub consciously pedestalling this woman believing she is the the queen and you are the peasent

Her reply is actually like a PUAs reply , kind of like "CBA tonight babe, maybe another night , well see "HOW I" feel"

This woman can't give you a deffo date if shes not well I agree! But her reply tells me everything I need to know about her immaturity and interest level !

OP self respect

 

[devilkingx2]

Her: Lol well I have the flu so there’s no way I’m leaving my apartment

the way that's phrased sounds like "go **** yourself kiddo rofl"

she's not the least be sorry or apologetic and just so happens to have the flu? lol sure.

if a girl asked you out to breakfast at ihop would you go "lol nah ima sleep in, raincheck, peace."

if you really want to shoot your shot offer to bring her hot soup and nurse her back to health (but uh try to make it sound facetious and clever/smooth rather than like you want to dote on her lovingly lol)

"I can bring you some hot soup instead and nurse you back to health, my excorcist grandma has a killer fire demon & sulfur soup recipe that's to die for "

 

[jaymbrs]

“That sucks. hit me up when you’re feeling better”.

 

[derby1]

“That sucks. hit me up when you’re feeling better”.

Which she wont...... Tbf jaymbrs

 

[Urbanyst]

Overthinking.

Either too much time on your hands or not enough alternative options.

 

[jaymbrs]

Which she wont...... Tbf jaymbrs

Well then she wasn’t interested to begin with.

 

[marmel75]

Well then she wasn’t interested to begin with.

Ok so go find someone who is and stop wasting time with her. Its so simple when you boil it down to its core.

If they are interested great. Continue seeing them and go find more. If they aren't interested great. Don't contact them again and go find more. Where guys fail is they stop trying to find more and start thinking because they put some amount of work in already they'd rather "see it through". There isnt anything to see through other than you wasting a lot of time and energy for no result.

 

[fanatic22]

I have other options, just not as good. Oh well, I deleted her number. Kinda puzzled because I feel like I’ll meet someone who I vibe really well with but then over text they almost always demonstrate low interest. Maybe I’m spending too much time in hookup bars.

 

[derby1]

delete her number do not contact, she considers herself as a queen and you as a peasent with that kind of reply

 

[RangerMIke]

Never forget. Women that like you will make things easy. If they don;t they make things hard. Your safe bet when in doubt, because you MIGHT be confused is to assume low interest and move onto the next chick.

Let me put it to you this way... if a chick you liked called you up and wanted to see you, would you just say that you are 'sick', and let it go?

My advice to you would be to not contact her again until she reaches out to you 1st.

 

[jaymbrs]

Ok so go find someone who is and stop wasting time with her. Its so simple when you boil it down to its core.

If they are interested great. Continue seeing them and go find more. If they aren't interested great. Don't contact them again and go find more. Where guys fail is they stop trying to find more and start thinking because they put some amount of work in already they'd rather "see it through". There isnt anything to see through other than you wasting a lot of time and energy for no result.

I've fallen victim to this. ****ty feeling.

 

[jaymbrs]

I have other options, just not as good. Oh well, I deleted her number. Kinda puzzled because I feel like I’ll meet someone who I vibe really well with but then over text they almost always demonstrate low interest. Maybe I’m spending too much time in hookup bars.

Your problem might be texting too much then. Refrain from having text conversations and just use it for making/confirming plans.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I have other options, just not as good. Oh well, I deleted her number. Kinda puzzled because I feel like I’ll meet someone who I vibe really well with but then over text they almost always demonstrate low interest. Maybe I’m spending too much time in hookup bars.

Why is she a "good" option? Is she blowing up your phone always trying to come thru and give you some pvssy? She's framing this as shes bigger than you and you begging for scraps.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

delete her number do not contact, she considers herself as a queen and you as a peasent with that kind of reply

I agree 110%. This is her frame. She's the queen and you are lucky for any scraps of attention she gives you? Why do you think you "vibe" with her, because she "flirts" with you? She probably "flirts" anyone.

 

[fanatic22]

Why is she a "good" option? Is she blowing up your phone always trying to come thru and give you some pvssy? She's framing this as shes bigger than you and you begging for scraps.

Lol..ok now I will push back a little.

I spent one night with her, fvcked with basically no effort, and forced her to chase me. She told me was on her way out of the bar with her friends, and I basically said “see ya” and turned around to hang with my friends. 5 minutes later she came back with her coat on and asked me when I was leaving. She later said to me “you know I was leaving, right?”

When I say she’s a good option I mean I enjoyed the banter in person (she’s very sarcastic so the text didn’t even strike me as that out of character), she’s hot, and I already fvcked her so I’d like to make that a regular thing. You are judging her entire frame towards me over a single text that she may have sent while feeling ill.

That being said her number has been deleted so the ball’s in her court. In general I DO have an issue where a girl seems very high interest in person (for instance, repeatedly initiating) and then low interest over text, but I suspect it’s less about my texting and more about the higher rate of low interest in the smartphone era.

 

[derby1]

she can sense how much you idolize her

she should enjoy YOUR company

so much so that shes blowing your phone up, and you are sending Low interest replies and showing high interest in person

because women are hugely attracted to MEN whos feelings are unclear

the tables are turned in this instance and she is behaving like the DJ

 

[fanatic22]

she can sense how much you idolize her

she should enjoy YOUR company

so much so that shes blowing your phone up, and you are sending Low interest replies and showing high interest in person

because women are hugely attracted to MEN whos feelings are unclear

the tables are turned in this instance and she is behaving like the DJ

You are very much confusing my posts on this forum with how I treated this woman. By posting about her at all, you’ve assumed that I have acted needy and desperate around her. I didn’t...which is why I got laid.

Anyways, I agree she’s too low interest to pursue, but I am puzzled by how women in my life seem to lose interest very quickly over the phone.