"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Read more...

no contact worked like a charm

C

cablecow15

Master Don Juan
Joined
Oct 17, 2005
Messages
651
Reaction score
13
Age
36
Location
Tennessee
Girl I was talking to suddenly became B!tchy and never seemed interested keeping our conversations going , then my birthday went by and i heard nothing from her , so I cut of contact and ignored her.

Last night comes and she texts me

Her: do you hate me ?
Me:No, you just never seemed to want anything to do with me , so why should i bother?
Her: i know im sorry for being a jerk
Me: so, you get all moved an everything ? ( last time we talked she mentioned moving to a new place )
Her:i sure did
Me: so what made you decide to text me out of nowhere?
Her:i dunno, i think about you every day to be honest.
Me:lol, then why did you wait so long to text me ?
Her:i guess cuz i'm stupid lol
me: haha if you miss me so much what are you gonna do about it ?
Her:i dunno lol what you want me to do about it ?
Me:idk, maybe get your butt over here to see me

the rest is just ramble bs

and we did meet up and make out a bit

looking back on it I feel like I asked to many questions. the best part os it is , I had totally moved on , I did not care about her , and she just pops back up out of nowhere, lol not caring truly is the best policy

In my eyes everything from now on is just icing on the cake I feel like ive already got a victory
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

M

MisterD

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Dec 29, 2011
Messages
402
Reaction score
35
Was this a girl you had been dating or at least banged? Was she showing interest before she got *****y or was she a disinterested girl you were trying to win over? And how long did you go NC before she caved?
 
F

flashpoint

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jul 28, 2012
Messages
310
Reaction score
12
i like that. questioning her was exactly right. the important command came from you anyways.
 
C

cablecow15

Master Don Juan
Joined
Oct 17, 2005
Messages
651
Reaction score
13
Age
36
Location
Tennessee
MisterD said:
Was this a girl you had been dating or at least banged? Was she showing interest before she got *****y or was she a disinterested girl you were trying to win over? And how long did you go NC before she caved?
Click to expand...

we had gone on a few dates , and she had shown intrest , se even said things like , "is it strange that i miss you ? " and Ive made out with her , seen here tits , and her lady parts , but no pleasurable contact lol

she just dident seem to make much of a effort to contact me , and when i saw her in a club , she would have no desire to talk to me or anything so I decided to forget about her , and she came back lol
 
P

pdx1138

Master Don Juan
Joined
Feb 24, 2010
Messages
1,298
Reaction score
52
congrats cablecow, if only I had been aware of such knowledge when I was your age.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

Read more...

I

Iceberg

Master Don Juan
Joined
Apr 19, 2002
Messages
3,110
Reaction score
136
Age
45
Location
Manhattan, NY
cablecow15 said:
Girl I was talking to suddenly became B!tchy and never seemed interested keeping our conversations going , then my birthday went by and i heard nothing from her , so I cut of contact and ignored her.

Last night comes and she texts me

Her: do you hate me ?
Me:No, you just never seemed to want anything to do with me , so why should i bother?
Click to expand...
It's good that you're learning the value of No Contact, but ideally, you dont want to make it seem like, "I stopped talking to you because you hurt my feelings."


Me: so what made you decide to text me out of nowhere?
Her:i dunno, i think about you every day to be honest.
Click to expand...
You don't want to say things like that either. It worked in this occasion, but it's a bad habit.

Me:idk, maybe get your butt over here to see me
Click to expand...
Yep. That's a good move right there.

looking back on it I feel like I asked to many questions. the best part os it is , I had totally moved on , I did not care about her , and she just pops back up out of nowhere, lol not caring truly is the best policy

In my eyes everything from now on is just icing on the cake I feel like ive already got a victory
Click to expand...
Yep. Not caring is the key. It doesn't guarantee you more success. But on the occasions when you fail, you're not sitting around for days worrying about some random girl whose done nothing for you. These girls are mostly interchangeable. Don't worry about the 8 out of 10 who might reject you. Worry about the 2 out of 10 who are in your rotation.
 
C

cablecow15

Master Don Juan
Joined
Oct 17, 2005
Messages
651
Reaction score
13
Age
36
Location
Tennessee
Iceberg said:
It's good that you're learning the value of No Contact, but ideally, you dont want to make it seem like, "I stopped talking to you because you hurt my feelings."




You don't want to say things like that either. It worked in this occasion, but it's a bad habit.



Yep. That's a good move right there.



Yep. Not caring is the key. It doesn't guarantee you more success. But on the occasions when you fail, you're not sitting around for days worrying about some random girl whose done nothing for you. These girls are mostly interchangeable. Don't worry about the 8 out of 10 who might reject you. Worry about the 2 out of 10 who are in your rotation.
Click to expand...
I agree entirely , but for some reason i could not for the life of me think of anything to say , next time this happens ill go with something like " Ive been really busy lately" or something
 
J

John.Peter151

Don Juan
Joined
Jun 17, 2012
Messages
26
Reaction score
1
Wow congratulations man!! You're lucky to have it worked :D Just pray the same for me that it works here too lol, btw for how long did you kept no contact until she finally contacted you? And was she getting cold/rude with you as well as losing interest? And yeah, did she ever had "HIGH" interest in you?
 
C

cablecow15

Master Don Juan
Joined
Oct 17, 2005
Messages
651
Reaction score
13
Age
36
Location
Tennessee
John.Peter151 said:
Wow congratulations man!! You're lucky to have it worked :D Just pray the same for me that it works here too lol, btw for how long did you kept no contact until she finally contacted you? And was she getting cold/rude with you as well as losing interest? And yeah, did she ever had "HIGH" interest in you?
Click to expand...
I feel like she had high interest in me , she couldn't get enough of me when we started hanging out , but i think part of me making myself to available , and here going into a b!tch mood to me had a lot to do with it , and it was about two and a half to three weeks since our last text , and maybe a month of not seeing each other she claims she was thinking about me alot during that time
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

Read more...

C

cablecow15

Master Don Juan
Joined
Oct 17, 2005
Messages
651
Reaction score
13
Age
36
Location
Tennessee
Zarky said:
I think you gave in too easily. She asks "Do you hate me?" you say, "What are you talking about?"
Click to expand...

hehe, I know I could have had alot more fun with this , I think i was kinda taken back by the thing tho , I was so surprised , I kinda just replied instinctively
 
G

georgie24

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Apr 28, 2003
Messages
472
Reaction score
8
Age
51
your 22 and " making out" ? did you atleast get a *******?
 
T

Trump

Banned
Joined
Mar 12, 2011
Messages
3,000
Reaction score
1,669
Zarky said:
I think you gave in too easily. She asks "Do you hate me?" you say, "What are you talking about?"
Click to expand...
I agree with this and what Iceberg said. Never get defensive or try to explain yourself to a woman, it never works.
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
22 Rules for Massive Success With Women
Top