"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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No Contact Worked Like A Charm !!! But......

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The no contact worked like a charm, i didnt contact her for for 2 days and she comes back to the apartment today.

she was knocking on the door and i didint open, i let her knock , knock and knock, she got to a point she cut the rear screen to the window to try and climb in, before i let her climb in i came down and opened the door.

Before you guys say anything know that the place is in her name and i agreed to pay the rent until lease is up.

Veterans i need your input please.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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2 days isn't no contact. 2 weeks or 2 months is no contact. If she's going that crazy after 2 days, then something is messed up in her head, and you should be dating better girls.
 

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maybe she wasnt the best descion ive made but i invested my time and energy into the relationship. Screening for quality is now on my top priority list. Until the lease is up i need to have a plan, my htoughts are anything can happen with this girl and i wont be able to start healing until she is complety out with no acsess to me or my were abouts
 

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Call the police next time.
 

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maybe not

well was her stuff in the apartment, like her cell phone / keys / wallet.... anything she may need that she can't get elsewhere?

what did she use to cut through the screen? bare hands? hedge trimmers?

details are important. 2 days isn't no contact tho; if she didn't need anything inside and she didn't have the place in her name, she'd just be crazy. but since she's got her name on the place... why doesn't she have a key?

explain please
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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5string said:
What Rollo said.

I hate to say it: if the lease is in her name, it's her home, she has every right to be in there. So Brother, you might think about finding another place to live if you don't want to deal with her.
 

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May be in her name, but they had an agreement that he would pay the rent until the lease was up as he's living there.

Would that not make it a sub lease?
 

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If you didn't right a contract to pay the rent. Move out and go live somewhere else. Pay rent for an apartment in your name. and let her ass get evicted then maybe she would be more appreictative.
 

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5string said:
May be in her name, but they had an agreement that he would pay the rent until the lease was up as he's living there.

Would that not make it a sub lease?

can someone tell me more on this, im not taking any chances..
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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georgie24 said:
can someone tell me more on this, im not taking any chances..
First of all, oral contracts many times are deemed valid. She agreed to let you have the apt until the lease was up if you paid the rent? I believe that would make it a sub lease.

This being the case, she actually broke into your apt.

Here you go.

http://legaldefinition.us/sublease.html
 

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yes we made verbal agreement
 

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Advice from a guy who has a law degree [but isn't allowed to give you legal advice or represent you cause i don't know where you are from]:

If i were you, i would just email her confirming your oral agreement, saying what you understand the terms to be. This way your verbal agreement is in some way memorialized (in writing) before any possible legal troubles begin. feel free to let her know that you are writing this after the events [describe them in the email] that transpired. THEN GO NO CONTACT. She's probably going to dispute the terms, and if her disputed terms are rediculous, then think about moving out or speaking to the Landlord.

IF THE APARTMENT IS NOT SAFE, GO SOMEWHERE THAT IS, TAKE PHOTOS OF THE PLACE BEFORE YOU LEAVE AND TAKE YOUR PRECIOUS STUFF WITH YOU. send the email. contact friends and family about it. don't hide it online.
 
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