No contact: was it fate or temptation?

[Tomo]

'I like you, but not in that way' and the typical talk that followed was what I got as all guys get in this situation.

I did what was taught on here and have been on NC for a couple weeks. In this time, I've really lifted my game in regards to the gym, study, sports etc and I'm feeling really good. We've caught eachother out at parties and ironically, neither her nor I have actually hooked up while the other is in each others vincinity. She was messaging me and replying instantly while I essentially blew her off. I bumped into her waiting outside a class the other day all by herself as if waiting for someone. It was not me but she expected me to have a conversation with her but I simply gave her a hi and continued on with my mate I was talking to.

Don't get me wrong. It's been hard. I'll admit every now and then she pops into my mind. But I'm pushing through, number closing and getting dates yet I'm the one flaking now because I just don't feel up to it; rather focus on myself.

Then the other day as I was heading home guess whom I see walking out of class all by herself. It was as if a force above had made us cross paths. I was so TEMPTED, so tempted to run up to her and have a conversation, see how things were going etc. Yet I didn't. For once, I just hung back, thought oh well she's walking to fast I'll stick with my mates who were slowly coming around the corner.

Looking back I started asking myself, if I had caught up to her, what would it have achieved? What was I expecting? Should I have ran up to her for a friendly chat?

Did I do the right thing here?

 

[MattTheW]

Then the other day as I was heading home guess whom I see walking out of class all by herself. It was as if a force above had made us cross paths. I was so TEMPTED, so tempted to run up to her and have a conversation, see how things were going etc. Yet I didn't. For once, I just hung back, thought oh well she's walking to fast I'll stick with my mates who were slowly coming around the corner.

Looking back I started asking myself, if I had caught up to her, what would it have achieved? What was I expecting? Should I have ran up to her for a friendly chat?

Did I do the right thing here?

If you had caught up with her then you would have literally been chasing her!!
If your paths cross then that's a different matter, but to quicken your pace to catch her would have come across as you are "after her"

Don't second guess yourself all the time - don't get hooked up on what ifs
You did the right thing, keep your sh1t tight and keep going
If she really wants to get in contact she'll make it happen - until then, keep going the way you are......start looking for someone else as well, you just need to be friendly with them, women have this inbuilt sixth sense, she'll be onto you as soon as you start showing a little interest in someone else.....

 

[The_411]

'I like you, but not in that way' and the typical talk that followed was what I got as all guys get in this situation.

I did what was taught on here and have been on NC for a couple weeks. In this time, I've really lifted my game in regards to the gym, study, sports etc and I'm feeling really good. We've caught eachother out at parties and ironically, neither her nor I have actually hooked up while the other is in each others vincinity. She was messaging me and replying instantly while I essentially blew her off. I bumped into her waiting outside a class the other day all by herself as if waiting for someone. It was not me but she expected me to have a conversation with her but I simply gave her a hi and continued on with my mate I was talking to.

Don't get me wrong. It's been hard. I'll admit every now and then she pops into my mind. But I'm pushing through, number closing and getting dates yet I'm the one flaking now because I just don't feel up to it; rather focus on myself.

Then the other day as I was heading home guess whom I see walking out of class all by herself. It was as if a force above had made us cross paths. I was so TEMPTED, so tempted to run up to her and have a conversation, see how things were going etc. Yet I didn't. For once, I just hung back, thought oh well she's walking to fast I'll stick with my mates who were slowly coming around the corner.

Looking back I started asking myself, if I had caught up to her, what would it have achieved? What was I expecting? Should I have ran up to her for a friendly chat?

Did I do the right thing here?

Synchonicity, my friend, can be a ***** if you take it to be a call to action. Unfortunately, sometime it occurs and its merely a test of your will or to remind you of something bad.

It's always tempting to think that because someone that you've been thinking about appears in front of you that they are open for that amazing realization that they've made a massive mistake, and you, are in fact, the greatest thing since sliced bread.

Pro tip: This only happens in Hollywood films. Stay the course she was a temptation placed before you to challenge your willpower. You cave you endure more pain and it keeps you from what you need to achieve.

 

[Krueg]

Your doing the right thing, your going No Contact so you have time to heal and move on with your life. Now, you dont have to be a jerk and completely ignore if you happen to run into her. You can just say Hi and act like everything is going well for you. It will throw her off and make her wonder... She probably feels the same way as you but, girls hide their true feelings...

The next girl will be cray about you!