Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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No Contact rly works...

Joshski

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im surprised at hwo much of an effect NC really has on a girl. I fell into the friendzone with her and she asked to still be friends b/c she really liked me (but as nothing more than a friend). I had two classes with her and a free that met everyday so i would see her ALL the time.

I unfortunately said yes...and it still hurt...seeing her and talking to her. i removed her from fb and aim and said i would never talk to her again. she noticed and asked to be friends. at this point, i felt that i had gotten over her so i said yes again (please don't kill me, i know i made the same mistake twice...:cry:)

At the beginning of this year (september) I decided that if she didn't say hi to me on the first day of school, im not talking to her. it turns out we have none of the same classes, so i gave her one more chance. day 2 comes and goes and nothing. so i remove her from my fb and aim again and i tell her i don't want to be friends or talk to her anymore (although she still wanted to be friends)

it's now been 6 months since i lasted talked to her in person. you can tell so much from her body reaction when she sees me walk in to a room she is in or talk to her friends. you can tell she really wants me to talk to her. i've seen her looking at me quite a bit and she seems really anxious when im around her.

i thought that NC would just be more for me to get over her, but she's feeling its affect too. :up:
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Igetit!

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Well yeah,no contact works,but NOT against the friendzone.


I hate to burst your bubble,but you really haven't done anything.

Yeah this girl is acting weird or anxious around you,but being weird and/or uncomfortable is different from feeling attraction.


She's acting funny because of the unresolved tension between you two,not because she suddenly became atracted to you.


She probably does want you to speak to her to help get rid of the uncomfortableness,not because she shaking and twitching with anticipation for you to ask her out.
 

tsmith2334

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It works beautifully, but only if the girl is already interested in you.
 

katatonia

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tsmith2334 said:
It works beautifully, but only if the girl is already interested in you.
Uhh no?

What would be the point of going no contact if the girl is already interested in you?

Dumb dumb dumb dumb dumb. :rolleyes:
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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tsmith2334

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katatonia said:
Uhh no?

What would be the point of going no contact if the girl is already interested in you?

Dumb dumb dumb dumb dumb. :rolleyes:
I didn't completely explain myself.

It only works if the girl was already interested in you but it fizzled. Then you go no contact for a little bit and her interest level increases.

It won't work, if she doesn't know who you are or doesn't care to talk to you anyway. So if the interest was never there, it's pointless.
 

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Igetit! said:
Well yeah,no contact works,but NOT against the friendzone.


I hate to burst your bubble,but you really haven't done anything.

Yeah this girl is acting weird or anxious around you,but being weird and/or uncomfortable is different from feeling attraction.


She's acting funny because of the unresolved tension between you two,not because she suddenly became atracted to you.


She probably does want you to speak to her to help get rid of the uncomfortableness,not because she shaking and twitching with anticipation for you to ask her out.

To add to Igetit, NO Contact doesnt work if you haven't FVCKED the girl!
 

909pua

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Igetit! said:
Well yeah,no contact works,but NOT against the friendzone.


I hate to burst your bubble,but you really haven't done anything.

Yeah this girl is acting weird or anxious around you,but being weird and/or uncomfortable is different from feeling attraction.


She's acting funny because of the unresolved tension between you two,not because she suddenly became atracted to you.


She probably does want you to speak to her to help get rid of the uncomfortableness,not because she shaking and twitching with anticipation for you to ask her out.

To add to Igetit, NO Contact doesnt work if you haven't FVCKED the girl!
 

katatonia

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909pua said:
To add to Igetit, NO Contact doesnt work if you haven't FVCKED the girl!
Wrong, it can work on any chick if you cut off contact after she shuts down your advances, then are seen with or heard about with another preferably hotter girl somewhere in the future during your no contact phase.
 

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No contact worked because it caused Joshski to finally grow a pair and quit letting himself be obsessed with this chick. Now he realizes that she has no power over him. So well done.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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