"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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No Contact rly works...

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im surprised at hwo much of an effect NC really has on a girl. I fell into the friendzone with her and she asked to still be friends b/c she really liked me (but as nothing more than a friend). I had two classes with her and a free that met everyday so i would see her ALL the time.

I unfortunately said yes...and it still hurt...seeing her and talking to her. i removed her from fb and aim and said i would never talk to her again. she noticed and asked to be friends. at this point, i felt that i had gotten over her so i said yes again (please don't kill me, i know i made the same mistake twice...:cry:)

At the beginning of this year (september) I decided that if she didn't say hi to me on the first day of school, im not talking to her. it turns out we have none of the same classes, so i gave her one more chance. day 2 comes and goes and nothing. so i remove her from my fb and aim again and i tell her i don't want to be friends or talk to her anymore (although she still wanted to be friends)

it's now been 6 months since i lasted talked to her in person. you can tell so much from her body reaction when she sees me walk in to a room she is in or talk to her friends. you can tell she really wants me to talk to her. i've seen her looking at me quite a bit and she seems really anxious when im around her.

i thought that NC would just be more for me to get over her, but she's feeling its affect too. :up:
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Well yeah,no contact works,but NOT against the friendzone.


I hate to burst your bubble,but you really haven't done anything.

Yeah this girl is acting weird or anxious around you,but being weird and/or uncomfortable is different from feeling attraction.


She's acting funny because of the unresolved tension between you two,not because she suddenly became atracted to you.


She probably does want you to speak to her to help get rid of the uncomfortableness,not because she shaking and twitching with anticipation for you to ask her out.
 
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It works beautifully, but only if the girl is already interested in you.
 
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tsmith2334 said:
It works beautifully, but only if the girl is already interested in you.
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Uhh no?

What would be the point of going no contact if the girl is already interested in you?

Dumb dumb dumb dumb dumb. :rolleyes:
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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katatonia said:
Uhh no?

What would be the point of going no contact if the girl is already interested in you?

Dumb dumb dumb dumb dumb. :rolleyes:
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I didn't completely explain myself.

It only works if the girl was already interested in you but it fizzled. Then you go no contact for a little bit and her interest level increases.

It won't work, if she doesn't know who you are or doesn't care to talk to you anyway. So if the interest was never there, it's pointless.
 
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Igetit! said:
Well yeah,no contact works,but NOT against the friendzone.


I hate to burst your bubble,but you really haven't done anything.

Yeah this girl is acting weird or anxious around you,but being weird and/or uncomfortable is different from feeling attraction.


She's acting funny because of the unresolved tension between you two,not because she suddenly became atracted to you.


She probably does want you to speak to her to help get rid of the uncomfortableness,not because she shaking and twitching with anticipation for you to ask her out.
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To add to Igetit, NO Contact doesnt work if you haven't FVCKED the girl!
 
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Igetit! said:
Well yeah,no contact works,but NOT against the friendzone.


I hate to burst your bubble,but you really haven't done anything.

Yeah this girl is acting weird or anxious around you,but being weird and/or uncomfortable is different from feeling attraction.


She's acting funny because of the unresolved tension between you two,not because she suddenly became atracted to you.


She probably does want you to speak to her to help get rid of the uncomfortableness,not because she shaking and twitching with anticipation for you to ask her out.
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To add to Igetit, NO Contact doesnt work if you haven't FVCKED the girl!
 
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909pua said:
To add to Igetit, NO Contact doesnt work if you haven't FVCKED the girl!
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Wrong, it can work on any chick if you cut off contact after she shuts down your advances, then are seen with or heard about with another preferably hotter girl somewhere in the future during your no contact phase.
 
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No contact worked because it caused Joshski to finally grow a pair and quit letting himself be obsessed with this chick. Now he realizes that she has no power over him. So well done.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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