"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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No contact but talking behind my back

danthemann

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So i recently started no contact with this HB ive been seeing the last month. Basically things between us started out well but somewhere long the line I got the feeling she lost interest (probably me going a little afc) and she started to try and use me/play me and I caught her, called her out, and hence the no contact (i dont do disrespect).
Anyways i really havent had a problem not contacting her but she was at my buddys place recently and started talking about me and told my one buddy she doesnt like me. Maybe im thinkin too much but if she actually didnt like me she shouldnt be thinking all that hard about me. She asks about me to her one good guy friend i hang with sometimes and shes called me twice since i started NC and i havent answered. Even her girlfriends mention her when they see me. What im asking is, is there any meaning behind her talking about me while im not talking to her and if she calls a third time should i answer?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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oneboy21

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this is what she wants from you
She wants you to contact her and go back to her
than she will control you at some point and then leave you, which she thinks will make you cry

on the other point you going NC with her is an awesome thing you did, which is in turn bothering her, she is thinking hard and making plans on you so you will feel the pain. her friends are supporting her.

Now you need to decide whether you need this chic or not, i don't think you need to go for a chich who lost interest in you. down the road if you go back she may lost interest in you.
 

danthemann

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Im not worried about me breaking the NC. I am 100% sure i can manage life without her. I just dont get how if you "dont like someone" you can still try and make them feel the pain. In my eyes if i didnt like a chick i wouldnt even bother with trying to mess with their head, is this girl just an evil player trying to manipulate all she can or what lol
 

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danthemann said:
Im not worried about me breaking the NC. I am 100% sure i can manage life without her. I just dont get how if you "dont like someone" you can still try and make them feel the pain. In my eyes if i didnt like a chick i wouldnt even bother with trying to mess with their head, is this girl just an evil player trying to manipulate all she can or what lol
some girls got nothing better to do in their life. they enjoy playing guys. that's their hobby. :eek:
 

oneboy21

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Topgun is right
she already got plans to play games with you, so she is sending invitations indirectly with her friends. if you take one step forward, she will take two steps forward to reach her goal to play games.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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danthemann

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aha I had the feeling all along that this chick was just messing with me. I honestly have this idea its because a few months ago I made out with her bestfriend at my buddys place (got her all hot n horny) and after she gave me a ride back to my place (her thinking shes gettin my d!ck) I never went through with her because I was able to catch myself before I banged an ugly chick. It kinda resembles how this girl wants car rides from me and will even get in bed with me but will NEVER let me f*** her, trust me ive made move after move then she tries to flip it on me afterwards like I dont wanna f***. I think she thinks the idea of sex with her already has me wrapped, oh no no missy, put out or get out...
 
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