"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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No Contact and One Up manship

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Just thought Id get some opinions on this.

I have been with a FWB girl for a year. She has hooked up with a new 'boyfriend' and is now devoting the majority of her time to him (fair enough).

Because she was quite deeply into me - at an emotional level - she is now trying to 'teach me a lesson' by trying to make me jealous - txting me about him, talking to me about him etc (we no longer have a FWB arrangement).

So... I am thinking about going full NC. That way she will get the message that I am not interested in the friends club thing.

However I have always thought this method is a bit childish, eg I would rather carry on to her as if Im having a good time/normal life, rather than coming across to her as angry etc... if I am like that, she wins.

Problem is she still contacts me for 'coffee' etc.

How would you suggest I overcome freezing her out completely (and looking like I am pissed at her) VS looking as though Im carrying on with life as normal?

Thoughts appreciated.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Sounds like you ended up in the Friend Zone, unless she's trying to make you jealous.

I recommend No Contact for a while, then Limited Contact if you really want to stay in touch. However that might only prolong the agony.
 
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If I were you, I would just tell her you are busy when she contacts you for coffee, dont offer any alternative date. And move the F**k on with your life. You don't have to go no contact with her, just dont initiate contact and when she contacts you be short and to the point and dont offer the opportunity for her to develop a conversation. Find yourself another girl, there are billions out there...
 
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bigneil said:
Sounds like you ended up in the Friend Zone, unless she's trying to make you jealous.

I recommend No Contact for a while, then Limited Contact if you really want to stay in touch. However that might only prolong the agony.
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Funny, a couple of days after your post, I have just received a txt from her. Very descriptive and sexual. Know what I think? She wants to keep me around in case new BF doesn't work out. Heck if we just agreed we were FWB and NOTHING else I would be good with that.

I just want to maintain the upper hand. Hmmm this could make for an interesting diary log...
 
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