"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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No contact after break up Did I handle it properly???

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My girlfriend/neighbor broke up with me 3 days ago and contacted me after I went to store on the second day and told me she was happy I got what I wanted/needed.I only went to store.She thought I was out all night.She invited me over on the 4th day as friends only.I told her now way unless we were a couple or at least in a intimate relationship.I don't want to let her go.She told me she didn't know what she wanted.I told her I couldn't hang out as friends only.She told me to come over if I wanted.I did not go.What would you guys do??
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Billtx49

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You handled it right. She broke up with you, now you want her to see the consequences of her action. You’re out and gone. Keep it that way unless she reconsiders it. Whether she does or doesn’t, find another women and invite her over to your place for a dinner and/or a movie…
Live your own life and give her the opportunity to miss your attention, it was her choice…
 
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I knew she would start contacting you after she noticed your car wasn't there and you were out doing ****. She invited you over as friends only? This, from a 40yr old woman Lol. You are doing well so far. I have a rule is to never get involved with a neighbor, **** turns ugly and then you have to deal with it every time you step outside your house.
 

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Sounds like a girl in junior high.

Either go nc for life and get back your sanity or keep letting her push pull you to crazy town.
 
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