"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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no confidence and boring

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I suddenly realised that i would bore me if i was talking to myself.
Realistically if u went up to someone and began talking about their family and school they're gona get bored quickly.
What do all u dj's actually talk about with women????!!!!
also at a party this evening there was one guy in particular who was unbelievably confident and all the girls liked him. But then there was a guy more like myself who is quiet and confident and he's got a fit woman.To be honest i don't like acting the tit and dancing about the place as i simply don't enjoy it.
I realised that i have put girls on a higher pedestal and i become very shy when around them.

However if i knew exciting conversation topics Then i believe i would be grand talking to woman.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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LikRetsam

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However, if you stopped deluding yourself into thinking you're something you're not (or not liking something you've never been) I would be more inclined to help you.

Moreover, you are feeding your little imaginary world here and that is something I can't help you with. Perhaps the bible, top right, will be more inclined to put up with your sh*t.
 

MidwestFreek

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ouch..but right...

there is no "if only" ****...thats just a cop out. "Great conversation" isnt taught, theres no magic topic, theres no fool proof 100% get laid everytime conversation technique, like said above, read the bible, it gives great advice on how to keep a convo goin, how to make it interesting, how to lead it to other places etc. read kid
 

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Just know what to say wont help if youre shy now will it??? I dont think so. You have to get over your shyness before youre big pimpin y0!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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