"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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TheDarkSaint

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Hey guys,

I live in a small town in the middle of nowhere (about 1500 people), so dating can be...difficult. However, I'm trying hard to be a DJ so I'm not giving up!

I do need some advice and some support. I'm hiring a friend from college days to come up and work with my kids (I'm a teacher). She's a HB7.9 and I used to have oneitis over her. We all know the familer story, so I won't reitterate it here except to say that I totaly broke off contact with her for a year before talking to her again.

She seems very interested in coming up and working with my kids and even suggested that she spend the night at my place instead of my school picking up a hotel room for her. I've kept contact at a minimum with just one phone call and 2 internet chats (both under 15 mins, I'm proud of myself) to tease her and try out some of the material on this site.

I'd put her interest level at around medium.

I need to know if this is a good idea or bad idea. Am I setting myself up for disaster?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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:eek:

Out of the billions of women out there that you could've started fresh with why did you hire one that already has preconvinced ideas about you?

Your not setting yourself up for disaster if you can keep on open mind that nothing may come of this.
 

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I do have other motives than some stinky pinky in hiring her. As isolated as I am, it's very difficult to find good people to hire on spesific instruments. Despite my feelings towards her, she is one of the best on a budget my school can afford.
 

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Originally posted by Kaptain
:eek:

Out of the billions of women out there that you could've started fresh with why did you hire one that already has preconvinced ideas about you?
To true. The best way to move forward is to throw out the rearview mirror and drive the car.
 

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I'm begining to agree.

Which makes me wonder if I should just get her a hotel room and not let her sleep at my place like she wanted to.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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:eek:

Don't go all asexual on us now.

You've laid the tracks now. You have to follow them to see where they lead.
 

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Ok. Thank for the kick to butt. I'm not a neuter and I won't act like it.

I need some help coming up with 3 or 4 quick, simple guidelines to follow while she is here.

I'm thinking along the lines of

1. Don't talk so much

2. I'm out of ideas...


Help?
 

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Originally posted by TheDarkSaint
I need some help coming up with 3 or 4 quick, simple guidelines to follow while she is here.
Act
Be decisive. No. "I don't know" or "What you you want to do?". If you say you'll do something... do it.
Bring her to you a good start. If anything is to happen you will need to initiate it.

Live In The Now
Living in the past is boring. Whats past is past and whats done is done. There MUST be some fun/interesting/exciting happening NOW.

Don't Be Afraid Of Her
Tease her. Touch her. Disagree with her. This in no way a rude to her.
 
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