"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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No car and trying to get a girl with a car insight?

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Ok so I am trying to get with this girl I like. She has a car. I don't.

We're supposed to meet up soon this month. How will this affect our interactions? I mean we live in NYC so the most common and popular way of transport is the MTA/trains, but does not having a car really hurt?

Especially when she has one? (Even though its an old 2002 Nissan)
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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1. You live in NYC
2. Her car is old. If it was some post 2008 Benz Honda Acura or Nissan it would have been different

you have nothing to worry about
 
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She pays more than the cost of the car every month to park it in NYC. I don't know why you would need a car to get laid there.
 
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Having a car is overrated.

It's only a problem if you make it a problem.

I've been with girls who drove cars when at times I didn't. How did I cope?

I made them chauffeur me around...on a few occasions I borrowed cars and didn't give it back for a while.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Just go out using the MTA. You don't need a car.

If she does bring it, you can either chill in the passenger seat like a boss; or tell her you want to drive because she's a woman (i.e. in a playful teasing way).
 
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You live in NYC. The car thing is a complete non-issue.
 
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@ Jaegar, I am only 24. She is around the same age.
@ Eagle EYes, LoveAfter2009 and handle: My main worry was that what if having a car dictates status/financial power in her views? I think I am thinking too deep but just wanting some opinions if it matter whether I have a car or not
 
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Piers Nivens said:
@ Jaegar, I am only 24. She is around the same age.
@ Eagle EYes, LoveAfter2009 and handle: My main worry was that what if having a car dictates status/financial power in her views? I think I am thinking too deep but just wanting some opinions if it matter whether I have a car or not
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If you live in such a commuter friendly city, then a car is not necessary. Who cares what she thinks about you not driving a car. If she is so adamant about what type of car you have, that already tells you this is gonna be trouble down the line.
 
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Dude, if you can't have a car right now then so be it. If you aren't cool enough with who you are right now, chances are you wouldn't too even if you've gotten your hands on a car of your own. Because by then, you still don't feel enough, so you'd want a bigger car, then a tesla, you get the point.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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ok, so the basic point you all made is that it doesnt matter whether she has a car and i dont.

fair enough. thanks for the positivity guys, was a relief :)
 
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OP, if you live in NYC, its no problem. You have the MTA and taxis. You can also pay for those monthly car membership services. You pay a small fee, and only pay a little more when you use a car. It works well for a lot of people.

Look into that.
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1. You live in NYC
2. Her car is old. If it was some post 2008 Benz Honda Acura or Nissan it would have been different

you have nothing to worry about
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Untrue.

Have you lived in NYC? There is room to park in all of the boros...and for free. The only time youll pay for parking is in midtown manhattan or the lower side of manhattan if you dont wanna walk far to your venue.
 
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Parking is generally easy to find (granted, hardest in Manhattan) but outside of Midtown it is still relatively easy. The day of the week, time, and distance to your venues do play a big role however obviously.

Trying to get free parking around Columbus Circle in Midtown for example, is a nightmare.
 
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3agle 3yes said:
Having a car is overrated.

It's only a problem if you make it a problem.

I've been with girls who drove cars when at times I didn't. How did I cope?

I made them chauffeur me around...on a few occasions I borrowed cars and didn't give it back for a while.
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Wow that's great to know, even though I have a car, I still live with my parents due to unable to afford living on my own
 
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NYC is a completely different beast. I've seen people get laughed at because they had a car. You can't compare the lack of ownership of a vehicle in NYC as compared to any other place.

It really is a non-issue.
I live in New Jersey and have never driven to NYC or in NYC. It's pointless.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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