"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Week 1-the beginning

I just got back from an awesome Florida vacation (with a little something extra) and am ready to start working on the bootcamp. I just got the PDF file and have read all of week 1. I love the articles on being a man and making eye contact. I really want to practice being "the catch" now. I have not listened to the music or done the activities yet, but I will do those sometime this week.
 

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I have finished the exercises.

Establishing eye contact with people is pretty easy as I have been doing it since childhood-going on walks, etc. I hope you thought so too. There are people who just won't look at you-f them. It was awkward to keep my eyes on people too long without doing the head nod/smile thing or acknowledging them, I assume that you were supposed to do that. One of the first people I ran into was this girl who were with 2 of her other friends sitting on a bench at the mall. Probably middle school/freshman (im junior) I could hear them freaking out after I walked past, so that was pretty fun and gave me a confidence boost. I am still a little uncomfortable with girls but now I know what to expect at least.

Saying Hi to 50 people were about the same or a little easier than establishing eye contact on "regular" people...but with girls it was harder because I was actually kind of afraid of being drawn into a conversation. Probably fear of how I will perform at conversation. But I finished the exercise pretty uneventfully.

Looking ahead this gets kind of rediculous. so we'll see.

EDIT: Did the exercises at my high school and westroads mall.
 
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