"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Week 1-the beginning

I just got back from an awesome Florida vacation (with a little something extra) and am ready to start working on the bootcamp. I just got the PDF file and have read all of week 1. I love the articles on being a man and making eye contact. I really want to practice being "the catch" now. I have not listened to the music or done the activities yet, but I will do those sometime this week.
 

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I have finished the exercises.

Establishing eye contact with people is pretty easy as I have been doing it since childhood-going on walks, etc. I hope you thought so too. There are people who just won't look at you-f them. It was awkward to keep my eyes on people too long without doing the head nod/smile thing or acknowledging them, I assume that you were supposed to do that. One of the first people I ran into was this girl who were with 2 of her other friends sitting on a bench at the mall. Probably middle school/freshman (im junior) I could hear them freaking out after I walked past, so that was pretty fun and gave me a confidence boost. I am still a little uncomfortable with girls but now I know what to expect at least.

Saying Hi to 50 people were about the same or a little easier than establishing eye contact on "regular" people...but with girls it was harder because I was actually kind of afraid of being drawn into a conversation. Probably fear of how I will perform at conversation. But I finished the exercise pretty uneventfully.

Looking ahead this gets kind of rediculous. so we'll see.

EDIT: Did the exercises at my high school and westroads mall.
 
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