Nightmare Scheduled Date This Evening - Bullet Dodged?

[Divorced w 3]

Possible cultural misunderstanding. Colombian women are traditional. Some of the most genuine, sweetest women I have ever known are Colombian. Will treat you like the king you are.

After you had apologized to her, for running late, which you were- you could simply have moved on with your evening, and show her you’re above the petty behavior she had shown to you.

Could have simply been non chalant, quiet for a couple days, let her maybe reach out.

Maybe, could have given her a second chance depending on the way you guys were communicating prior plus her actions afterwards- then maybe you could have gotten some tail in some fashion at some point.

But with the IG unfollow she knows you’re butt hurt and have zero chance of that happening. Now she knows you’re soft. Latin women respond to masculine men. They also fck like wild animals. Unfortunate.

 

[Sega Genesis]

@CheekyMonkey101 I wouldn't worry about it to much bro shyt happens, and this girl either wasn't that interested or thought you were standing her up.

My take on her behavior was she was trying to control his frame. The message being "if you want to date me, be on time"!

Just my sense from the tone of her texts. Inflexible and rigid.

Reminds me of the book "The Rules" from years ago wherein one of the rules was "if a man doesn't ask you out three days in advance, tell him no, you're busy (even if she's only washing her hair).

NO exceptions!

And that women need to teach men how to treat them "respectfully" (in their eyes) by asking them out several days in advance, being on time (no matter what), buying them a romantic gift on her birthday etc.

Otherwise he's OUT!

I know a woman on another forum who talks about that book and imposing such rules when she dated in the 80s.

It's very rigid thinking imo I don't agree with it at all!

I agree with being flexible and open to changing nuances (within reason which this was) and to the OP I think you did fine!

Something came up last minute that required.you to be 20 min late, and you promptly let her know.

You were all ready to go and told her you'd be there in a few!

That's being respectful imo.

Her? Nope not good enough. You lost your chance. At least that night.

Bullet dodged.

 

[Bingo-Player]

Op it was your fault you were going to be late , why are you unfollowing her

its bizarre immature behaviour

 

[BillyPilgrim]

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Ironically she did message me after and said that we could meet next week. I'll see how it goes, she is pretty attractive but it is a bit alarming how strict she was, but I should be on time in future.

If you meet up, make a point to be early and give her sh1t teasingly if she's one second late. If she can't at least laugh and play along at the teasing, end the meet early.

 

[CheekyMonkey101]

I always had issues with being on time. Years ago I dated one of my former girlfriends that was crazy about punctuality. I was 5 mins late and she was already pointing out to me that I was late - if I was late 20 mins she put me through her rage mantras how I do not respect her time, our relationship, our 'love'.

The fact was she was cold-heart woman that wanted to be pedestalised and had dominant character (nevertheless lacking skills of true leader, one of them being empathy and understanding - also that me being late does not necessarily mean any of things she accused me of - I was genuinely interested in her and loved her at some point).

Your almost-date girl behaviour shows she is either immature, cold-hearted/dominant princess type and/or interest level was not high enough. What's interesting however is that prolly she was right to some extent - if you would thought she is 10/10 would you allow yourself to be late under any circumstances?

I'd say you did correct with unfollowing her on IG - people should learn proper manners (the proper reaction is to wait for someone who is late, then the person who is late says 'sorry' and both sides go through with the meeting, while party that was late may somehow warm up the strained opening by putting but more on it's bill or proposing some really cool place for the next meeting').

Moreover, if she did not want to wait for you 20 mins, the next (rescheduled) date was highly improbable.

Your username is pretty apt for this scenario...