"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Night out with AWs

Life-Trainee

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Went out with my bud last night to a bar where we met four chicks one of which he got a number from a day earlier. All girls but one were gorgeous. He was being nice to them all night. He wasn't a carpert and didn't buy them drinks or anything but he wasn't getting much interest from them. I tried chatting up one of these hotties that i liked but I got extremely bored with her answers. The girls went dancing on already cramped dance floor while I went to look for other opportunities. I talked to a couple of girls but it was so loud I couldn't keep a normal conversation. A UG from the group of 4 afterwards asked me whether I knew those girls I tried talking to and I lied and said that I knew them. The night was over, I didn't even bother asking any of the girls for # because there was no IOI. I went home. My bud tried getting with one of the girls while driving her home but she "casually" mentioned having a BF. (tradeup deal failed!) I knew I probably should've squeezed in between those chicks while they were dancing (my bud was reluctant to) but I didn't want to seem trying too hard.

Oh well, just like any other night eh?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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just another night bud. you seem to do well and chilled back cause the biggest mistake a guy can make is trying to "sarge" (what a stupid ass word that dumb DJS make right?) say the word CHARGE that's better. CHARGE instead of SARGE.

So i'm gonna start that DJ movement of words.. CHARGE INSTEAD OF sarge.

So if you charged those 4 b1tches you would've been dissed. In that situation you gotta chill back cause sooner or later one of those h0s will talk to you and ask about you. Do your thing and if you feel it for one h0 get that number.

Deathdealer out.
 

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You know I kind of stopped giving a damn what happens, but as a side effect I don't put forth much effort lately. I don't expect anything from these encounters. I'm on a burnout cycle right now i guess. The women I want are interested in 30-somethings and any relatively good looking girl has a BF. There's stiff competition for the girls that ARE available and I don't think i'm quite up there with my game to defeat anyone.
 

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Originally posted by Life-Trainee
You know I kind of stopped giving a damn what happens, but as a side effect I don't put forth much effort lately. I don't expect anything from these encounters. I'm on a burnout cycle right now i guess. The women I want are interested in 30-somethings and any relatively good looking girl has a BF. There's stiff competition for the girls that ARE available and I don't think i'm quite up there with my game to defeat anyone.
Stop thinking like a girlie-man
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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