"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Night out w/ 2 girls

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I had a night out with 2 girls, they are friends. I just feel like I've been wasting all these years, I'm 29 now and have never used bars as a place to meet hot babes and it's time for me to do so before it's too late!

Let me tell you something, everytime I would leave them, or one would walk off, or even when I was with them, a guy was approaching them. I got there at 11:00 and left at around 2:00. In 3 hours, they were approached at least 3 times. I was with them half the time!!!! One time a guy approached them when I was with them! Tonight was a freaking revelation to me and I realized it shouldn't be a big deal to approach women that you don't know! If all these guys can do it, and the worse that can happen is the girl shrugs them off, why in the hell am I not doing it????

When I first got there and before I met up with them, I was at the bar getting a beer. I noticed a girl was staring at me across the other side of the bar. She was by herself. Anyone with skill would have gone up and talked to her. At this point I don't even think it takes balls to approach women. THEY EXPECT TO BE APPROACHED! I didn't approach her because I had a totally different mindset at the beginning of the night. I saw her later that night with some guys, and she smiled at me as I walked by! Why in the hell didn't I talk to her at the beginning of the night?

I can't believe how many times these women were approached.. All they did was listen, and if they weren't interested, they would move on. I'd imagine they are going to move on most of the time.

All I need to do is find openers. At this point, I have 4 Coors Lights in me, I'm not drunk by any means. I still don't know why in the hell I put so much thought into approaching women at bars! It's ridiculous to worry about approaching women at bars!

I only realized this when I was with one of the girls when we were about to leave. I went in my own car, they went in theirs, so they needed to ride home together. I was with one girl, the other was using the bathroom. Finally the girl I was with said she'd better go look for her, she was taking a while. We went out there and she was talking to 2 guys. She said "I figured she would be talking to someone if she took this long." The girl I was with went up there and started talking to them too, so they could leave.

I know some of you may not appreciate this post, but some of you might. That's why I'm writing it.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Sounds good to me. Got to see the approach and the rejection first-hand from an outside perspective. No emotional involvment, so your thought isn't clouded. You saw that the whole interaction is NOT that big a deal, and you realized that it isn't worth it to be worried about it. Perfect!

You didn't approach the one girl, but that's ok. Just remember to do it next time you get the chance.
 
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This reminds me of the time I walked thru mall, and the entire town with two girls, one to my left and one to my right. This gave me a HUGE ego boost because I knew people were saying "look at that PIMP!"
 

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@ rrrrr, Just approach and say "Hey I noticed you from over there and wasn't going to miss a chance to meet you. I'm ****" and hand shake. That is after eye contact and smirk/smile,then take if from there.
Now that you have acknowledged how little it means to approach a chick,do it.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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