Conversely, I actually have some great personal and sexual relationships with women who take progressive positions on feminism, gun control, and welfare. We still manage to treat each other pretty damn well - awwww yeah.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
"Nice guys" of OKCupid
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Wilko said:Incidentally, this is why, once you have a basic profile, you should never answer the additional questions on any dating site. Even if you have exceptional online game, you're just creating additional opportunities to disqualify yourself. Leave a little mystery for God's sake! This is basic stuff, DJ-101. The questions are just there to keep the girls logging back on - pretty clever actually - you, on the other hand, have nothing to gain by answering them.
By all means, craft a strong identity with your profile, but once that's done, it's time to drop the mike and swagger off stage. No encores, leave them wanting more.
Good thought, but they use the questions to create the match %
Actually, perhaps someone can clarify that for me. I'm under the impression that the match percentages are nothing more than a serving suggestion? Doesn't affect search results or your ability to message other users. Correct?
Funny ****. Some are drab, and not even pointing to hypocrisy. Like if women should shave their legs. Who gives a ****... Just grasping for straws.
Loved the one, though, where the guy said "****ing chicks" in his interests / what he does on weekends. Ha Ha.
This applies to women, too, by the way. Never buy into nice / good people victimized whining claims. Theyre just as selfish, shallow, objectifying, promiscious, etc as the rest. Only they feel owed and entitled on top of it, AND arent appealing physically or personality wise, AND dont do **** to better themselves. Worst of the worst. Hypocrisy, whining, double standards all over.
Loved the one, though, where the guy said "****ing chicks" in his interests / what he does on weekends. Ha Ha.
This applies to women, too, by the way. Never buy into nice / good people victimized whining claims. Theyre just as selfish, shallow, objectifying, promiscious, etc as the rest. Only they feel owed and entitled on top of it, AND arent appealing physically or personality wise, AND dont do **** to better themselves. Worst of the worst. Hypocrisy, whining, double standards all over.
d!ckmojo
Senior Don Juan
Oh yeah, all my girlfriends/hookups in my life have been left-wing liberals... I just think that's the default world view for young women aged 16~34 (/slash, whenever they get married).Wilko said:Conversely, I actually have some great personal and sexual relationships with women who take progressive positions on feminism, gun control, and welfare. We still manage to treat each other pretty damn well - awwww yeah.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Anyone?Wilko said:Actually, perhaps someone can clarify that for me. I'm under the impression that the match percentages are nothing more than a serving suggestion? Doesn't affect search results or your ability to message other users. Correct?
I read about it somewhere maybe at okc, thats how okc does the matches and that it's a unique way of doing it. If you see women with 0% mate/friend/enemy they have not answered any of the survey questions. Thats why they say the more you answer the better.
The serving suggestion is Quiver.
doesn't affect ability to message others, but I do think they do some kind of filtering.
I had 2 accounts with differences on both and I'd see some women on one never show up on search on the other. I also once got a message from okc admin that I'd been rated "hot enough"
that I would now see the more attractive women there. Not sure if that was a load of bull or not.
I hate it when any company does filtered results.
The serving suggestion is Quiver.
doesn't affect ability to message others, but I do think they do some kind of filtering.
I had 2 accounts with differences on both and I'd see some women on one never show up on search on the other. I also once got a message from okc admin that I'd been rated "hot enough"
that I would now see the more attractive women there. Not sure if that was a load of bull or not.
I hate it when any company does filtered results.