Conversely, I actually have some great personal and sexual relationships with women who take progressive positions on feminism, gun control, and welfare. We still manage to treat each other pretty damn well - awwww yeah.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
"Nice guys" of OKCupid
- Thread starter SeymourCake
- Start date
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Wilko said:Incidentally, this is why, once you have a basic profile, you should never answer the additional questions on any dating site. Even if you have exceptional online game, you're just creating additional opportunities to disqualify yourself. Leave a little mystery for God's sake! This is basic stuff, DJ-101. The questions are just there to keep the girls logging back on - pretty clever actually - you, on the other hand, have nothing to gain by answering them.
By all means, craft a strong identity with your profile, but once that's done, it's time to drop the mike and swagger off stage. No encores, leave them wanting more.
Good thought, but they use the questions to create the match %
Actually, perhaps someone can clarify that for me. I'm under the impression that the match percentages are nothing more than a serving suggestion? Doesn't affect search results or your ability to message other users. Correct?
Funny ****. Some are drab, and not even pointing to hypocrisy. Like if women should shave their legs. Who gives a ****... Just grasping for straws.
Loved the one, though, where the guy said "****ing chicks" in his interests / what he does on weekends. Ha Ha.
This applies to women, too, by the way. Never buy into nice / good people victimized whining claims. Theyre just as selfish, shallow, objectifying, promiscious, etc as the rest. Only they feel owed and entitled on top of it, AND arent appealing physically or personality wise, AND dont do **** to better themselves. Worst of the worst. Hypocrisy, whining, double standards all over.
Loved the one, though, where the guy said "****ing chicks" in his interests / what he does on weekends. Ha Ha.
This applies to women, too, by the way. Never buy into nice / good people victimized whining claims. Theyre just as selfish, shallow, objectifying, promiscious, etc as the rest. Only they feel owed and entitled on top of it, AND arent appealing physically or personality wise, AND dont do **** to better themselves. Worst of the worst. Hypocrisy, whining, double standards all over.
d!ckmojo
Senior Don Juan
Oh yeah, all my girlfriends/hookups in my life have been left-wing liberals... I just think that's the default world view for young women aged 16~34 (/slash, whenever they get married).Wilko said:Conversely, I actually have some great personal and sexual relationships with women who take progressive positions on feminism, gun control, and welfare. We still manage to treat each other pretty damn well - awwww yeah.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Anyone?Wilko said:Actually, perhaps someone can clarify that for me. I'm under the impression that the match percentages are nothing more than a serving suggestion? Doesn't affect search results or your ability to message other users. Correct?
I read about it somewhere maybe at okc, thats how okc does the matches and that it's a unique way of doing it. If you see women with 0% mate/friend/enemy they have not answered any of the survey questions. Thats why they say the more you answer the better.
The serving suggestion is Quiver.
doesn't affect ability to message others, but I do think they do some kind of filtering.
I had 2 accounts with differences on both and I'd see some women on one never show up on search on the other. I also once got a message from okc admin that I'd been rated "hot enough"
that I would now see the more attractive women there. Not sure if that was a load of bull or not.
I hate it when any company does filtered results.
The serving suggestion is Quiver.
doesn't affect ability to message others, but I do think they do some kind of filtering.
I had 2 accounts with differences on both and I'd see some women on one never show up on search on the other. I also once got a message from okc admin that I'd been rated "hot enough"
that I would now see the more attractive women there. Not sure if that was a load of bull or not.
I hate it when any company does filtered results.