"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Nice guys get the short end of the stick
- Thread starter chzpu
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Nice guys are yes men at work. Women can't stand yes men because they never get ahead. They do what they are told, by their boss and their woman.
Do not confuse being a Gentleman or being honorable with being nice. Even if she mistreats him, a Gentleman still walks a girl to her car. But only a nice guy would act apologetic or offer to take her out again unless she worked to get him back.
SmooveMooves
Master Don Juan
That about sums up the life of a nice guy.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Not true. A Gentlemen holds doors because that is the proper, time honored thing to do. He ignores bad behavior (though occasionally calling rude women on it with a sarcastic 'you're welcome') and feminists get pissed and claim nobody needs them. Nice guys do what feminists say to avoid offending them.SmooveMooves said:
And (as Infern0 so elegantly summarizes) chzpu is only pretending to be nice and wondering why he gets the short end of the stick. He's not nice. He's a bitter little DB and women know it.
Some women want the door held and some don't because some are old fashioned and some aren't. Again for your remedial mind, it has nothing to do with being nice.bigneil said:
A masochist ignores bad behavior from women. Yet again nothing to do with being a nice guy.
Pretending to be nice is not being a nice guy. It's pretending to be a nice guy.
You list your age as 44 but you have the intelligence of a 4 year old.
Tictac
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_________chzpu said:
Who pissed on your toothbrush angry boy?
Correction.SmooveMooves said:
Gentlemen hold doors open for everyone and these old fashioned gentleman get mad when the woman is not old fashioned who wants to open the door herself.
You have no clue what a nice guy is. You need remedial training.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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And yet you are the one who joins our site, and makes an obviously baited first post, then follows up the predictable responses with hostility and insult.chzpu said:
You, good sir are a troll.
I recommend we pay the troll no further mind.
And is anything said on the internet "backed up"? Not like Cheezy Poo's sluggish colon, thanks to those antidepressants she's on that cause chronic constipation.