"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Nice guys get the short end of the stick
- Thread starter chzpu
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Nice guys are yes men at work. Women can't stand yes men because they never get ahead. They do what they are told, by their boss and their woman.
Do not confuse being a Gentleman or being honorable with being nice. Even if she mistreats him, a Gentleman still walks a girl to her car. But only a nice guy would act apologetic or offer to take her out again unless she worked to get him back.
SmooveMooves
Master Don Juan
That about sums up the life of a nice guy.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Not true. A Gentlemen holds doors because that is the proper, time honored thing to do. He ignores bad behavior (though occasionally calling rude women on it with a sarcastic 'you're welcome') and feminists get pissed and claim nobody needs them. Nice guys do what feminists say to avoid offending them.SmooveMooves said:
And (as Infern0 so elegantly summarizes) chzpu is only pretending to be nice and wondering why he gets the short end of the stick. He's not nice. He's a bitter little DB and women know it.
Some women want the door held and some don't because some are old fashioned and some aren't. Again for your remedial mind, it has nothing to do with being nice.bigneil said:
A masochist ignores bad behavior from women. Yet again nothing to do with being a nice guy.
Pretending to be nice is not being a nice guy. It's pretending to be a nice guy.
You list your age as 44 but you have the intelligence of a 4 year old.
Tictac
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_________chzpu said:
Who pissed on your toothbrush angry boy?
Correction.SmooveMooves said:
Gentlemen hold doors open for everyone and these old fashioned gentleman get mad when the woman is not old fashioned who wants to open the door herself.
You have no clue what a nice guy is. You need remedial training.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Infern0
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And yet you are the one who joins our site, and makes an obviously baited first post, then follows up the predictable responses with hostility and insult.chzpu said:
You, good sir are a troll.
I recommend we pay the troll no further mind.
And is anything said on the internet "backed up"? Not like Cheezy Poo's sluggish colon, thanks to those antidepressants she's on that cause chronic constipation.