Nice Guy VS Jerk question

[CCFCmid]

How would you respond to a girl you were gaming who said something like...

"You never say nice things to me any more" after you've gone through the initital stranger danger stage and are progressing into creating attraction with teasing, disagreeing, walking away, neg-hits, few compliments stuff.

Is this an attempt from the girl to get some 'free' ego-massaging, without having to do anything (for instance do something to earn the compliments)? Which in essence would be a **** test? Trying to see if you will drop into the AFC 'yes man' role?

If I'm on the right lines here what would the correct course of action??

to keep going with the lack of compliments to assert you are not a ego-massagin yes man, or give a little increase in compliments before going back cold quite quickly afterwards?

As a bit of background: this girl is one of those, not hot, but cute innocent type girls, who from speaking to I believe would see most AFC types (gathered from several tidbits of info from her) as lonely, or clingy, but also then soon admitted, "but I'm (her) quite clingy too I suppose"

Again the workings of the female mind confuse lol!

 

[todays_news]

Dont change anything. Maybe even take the piss out of it slightly? But in a playful way, dont rip into her about it.

 

[zekko]

I'm not so sure it's a bad thing to say something nice to a woman once in a while. Remember, many jerks are LIARS. And what do they do? They POSE as the nice guy to get in the girl's pants. They tell her what she wants to hear. Then once they get what they want, they're gone. Classic case of the girl getting fooled by a guy.

 

[Ease]

When in doubt, do nothing.

The question is nonsense. The answer you give is unimportant. Girls start talking crap like this once they like you. It's a sign she's been thnking about you, she starts making observations and comments about you or the relationship.

The only wrong answer would be to give her a compliment or take her seriously.

 

[tinctrar]

Agreed with the others. Do Nothing.

Just another sh!t test. Boring.

If you try to take the piss out of it - you will probably lose face.

I usually respond with "You think too much" and then ill switch up the subject quickly.

 

[CCFCmid]

Yeah as I thought then, thanks for the confirmation!

Playing devil's advocate though lets say she's getting attention from an AFC type, which I believe she is, very typical type... and possibly this was a way of checking out my interest level before heading off towards the AFC if she didn't get the little compliment? Is this a possibility? or is this my AFC part of my head trying to tell me this still and fool me into that old role?

 

[tinctrar]

Yeah as I thought then, thanks for the confirmation!

Playing devil's advocate though lets say she's getting attention from an AFC type, which I believe she is, very typical type... and possibly this was a way of checking out my interest level before heading off towards the AFC if she didn't get the little compliment? Is this a possibility? or is this my AFC part of my head trying to tell me this still and fool me into that old role?

Your still thinking too much.

Stop thinking.

The more you overanalayze the worse the situaton gets.

 

[CCFCmid]

Your still thinking too much.

Stop thinking.

The more you overanalayze the worse the situaton gets.

Agreed, its a habit i'm trying to get out of

 

[Captain]

There's nothing wrong with saying a few nice things, especially once she's already into you, as long as it doesn't come from a chump mindset (e.g. "wow you're so beautiful, therefore you are so much better than I, can you honour me by coming on a date with me please?")