"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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jackie jones

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Greetings, everyone.

I am just going to get into the heart of this. I met this girl one summer several years ago. We walked around town, got iced cream, talked, and had a lovely day. I was not forward with her about how I felt only out of fear of rejection. We went our separate ways and I have not seen her since.

I am a different person in many ways now. Especially regarding approaching women.

This week, I was walking around the town where I met her, enjoying the early spring, and decided to go into a small shop.

There she was.

She asked me if I remembered her. I said I did. We just stared into each others eyes for some time. It had to be a minute - which can be a long time under the right circumstances.

We talked for a bit, and she mentioned that she was hungry. I asked her what she was in the mood for, and she said spring rolls. I went to the Chinese joint down the street and came back with lunch. We went to the back of her shop, ate, and talked for an hour. I told her that I am married. She said "I guess it is too late now" and I replied "It is never too late" to which she replied "No?" She told me that she has a boyfriend, but has never found anyone good enough to settle down with.

We went outside and drew flowers on the sidewalk with chalk and talked more.

We exchanged Facebook information and both went about our day.

We have talked a couple times since, but nothing substantial. I have made sure to not message her all the time like I want to. We are going to meet up next time I go to her town, which is nearby, soon.

I am married and I love my wife. We have not been doing well together for some time and have talked about divorce.

I truly love my wife, but I cannot just throw the opportunity to be with this girl away. She is gorgeous and our ideals are so close.

I do not know if she likes me as more than a friend or really what to do from here.

Can someone offer me some sage advice?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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skinnyguy

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try to fvck her brains out and get a divorce already
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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