Hey guys, it seems like my original topic from the anything else fourm was delected due to a page limit ( Don't worry, I'm cool about it ) so I thought I would continue posting about it in a more approitate part of the fourms, namely here.
Anyways, onto Part 3...
Part 3 - THE FIRST EXPERIMENT
28th - 29th Janurary 2006
A tip I've learned from another source to help calm my nerves in a protential pick - up situation ( as well as many other situations ) is to breathe deeply and consciously in and out for a few moments, this apparently takes your mind off the fear and dimishes it, I have used this technique a few times before, it has actually helped me in a few situations as well, though, I knew in order to succeed in my weakest area; namely pick ups, I would need more help and thats what brought me here.
Like I said before, I am a Trainee DJ who's learning the ropes, I have taken to the theory like a fish takes to water ( Then again, I have an interest in Pyschology & Sociology ) greater benfitting me as a person as a whole, giving me an edge over many in certain areas like emotional satability and now, I also don't give a F*** anymore about getting a girl, sure, I get a touch of desperation on the odd night but I'm back to not giving a F*** the next day. My college work has improved as well as I just seem more focused on it now.
However, my actual practical experince is not up to scratch as a result of;
1. Going to all boys schools until I was 14
2. Being very much shaltered while I was being raised
3. Having unrealisticly high expections in life
4. I am a little shy
All this left me high and dry when I tried to get a girl, it wasn't pretty, I literally followed the poor girl in silence as I thought it was the right thing to do! It left me getting insulted, slagged off and draged me down to the level of COMPLETE AFCNESS, it hit rock bottom when I very nearly assaulted a girl once over extreme denial, depression and pure desperation. Even before I found this site, I was already on a spritual journey to recover mentally and spritually. The following thing was the first thing to go! Over time, my socail skills improved to a more reasonable level but its still not perfect.
The world is my classroom, so they say. So today ( Janurary 28th ) was my first visit to the Science room in a long time as I was about to perform an experiment, a feild test of sorts of what I've learned so far. It was my first experiment I performed on the road to becoming a DJ and I have learned a lot from it.
The experiment took place in two bars in my town. The appartus used was; Me, a few lads, a group of girls, including one birthday girl. Its purpose; to test some of the DJ tecniques I've learned and see where I need to work on.
The experiment started when I arrived at the first bar on my own, like I usually do. Thats the good thing about not being closed into any specific group, it leaves me free to move around when I like and how I like. Anyways, I was hanging out for a while, talking to one or two people until a group of guys I know came along. This lead me to a group of girls, including the one celebrating her birthday.
For the rest of the night, I tried my best to act like I would always. I hung out with this group and even gave said Birthday girl a birthday kiss on the cheek ( OK, I was told to do it! ) as well as ending up literally getting cake stuffed into my face! When the guys went to another bar, I hung around with the girls until they went, choosing to stay a little quiet, like I am usually.
Later, I admit I acted a little bit AFCish around the Birthday girl especailly but the thing was; I DIDN'T CARE. A true AFC is someone who cares about being one! ( Yes, I know, its an odd philisophy but it works for me ) unfortately for me, logic kicked in late on and I started thinking too much and miss my chance to give the girl a kiss to remember! Ah well, crap happens, at least I got another girl to kiss ME on the cheek!
So, What did I learn?
* Thinking too about on the spot before doing something is a BAD idea!
* There is hope for us all!
* You can get away with acting a little AFCish, the key is to NOT CARE ABOUT IT.
As well as that, I also learned that I also REALLY need to get a job of some sort! I need more money to go places and such! That and I want to move of home this year! But thats another matter entirely.
What do I need to do? I need to attenpt some cold approaches, I really need to read about that in the DJ bible again. Hopefully, I'll attempt some in the next 2 weeks or maybe I should set myself a specific date to make some attmepts or something.
Anyways, until next time, The Journey Continues......
NHY
Anyways, onto Part 3...
Part 3 - THE FIRST EXPERIMENT
28th - 29th Janurary 2006
A tip I've learned from another source to help calm my nerves in a protential pick - up situation ( as well as many other situations ) is to breathe deeply and consciously in and out for a few moments, this apparently takes your mind off the fear and dimishes it, I have used this technique a few times before, it has actually helped me in a few situations as well, though, I knew in order to succeed in my weakest area; namely pick ups, I would need more help and thats what brought me here.
Like I said before, I am a Trainee DJ who's learning the ropes, I have taken to the theory like a fish takes to water ( Then again, I have an interest in Pyschology & Sociology ) greater benfitting me as a person as a whole, giving me an edge over many in certain areas like emotional satability and now, I also don't give a F*** anymore about getting a girl, sure, I get a touch of desperation on the odd night but I'm back to not giving a F*** the next day. My college work has improved as well as I just seem more focused on it now.
However, my actual practical experince is not up to scratch as a result of;
1. Going to all boys schools until I was 14
2. Being very much shaltered while I was being raised
3. Having unrealisticly high expections in life
4. I am a little shy
All this left me high and dry when I tried to get a girl, it wasn't pretty, I literally followed the poor girl in silence as I thought it was the right thing to do! It left me getting insulted, slagged off and draged me down to the level of COMPLETE AFCNESS, it hit rock bottom when I very nearly assaulted a girl once over extreme denial, depression and pure desperation. Even before I found this site, I was already on a spritual journey to recover mentally and spritually. The following thing was the first thing to go! Over time, my socail skills improved to a more reasonable level but its still not perfect.
The world is my classroom, so they say. So today ( Janurary 28th ) was my first visit to the Science room in a long time as I was about to perform an experiment, a feild test of sorts of what I've learned so far. It was my first experiment I performed on the road to becoming a DJ and I have learned a lot from it.
The experiment took place in two bars in my town. The appartus used was; Me, a few lads, a group of girls, including one birthday girl. Its purpose; to test some of the DJ tecniques I've learned and see where I need to work on.
The experiment started when I arrived at the first bar on my own, like I usually do. Thats the good thing about not being closed into any specific group, it leaves me free to move around when I like and how I like. Anyways, I was hanging out for a while, talking to one or two people until a group of guys I know came along. This lead me to a group of girls, including the one celebrating her birthday.
For the rest of the night, I tried my best to act like I would always. I hung out with this group and even gave said Birthday girl a birthday kiss on the cheek ( OK, I was told to do it! ) as well as ending up literally getting cake stuffed into my face! When the guys went to another bar, I hung around with the girls until they went, choosing to stay a little quiet, like I am usually.
Later, I admit I acted a little bit AFCish around the Birthday girl especailly but the thing was; I DIDN'T CARE. A true AFC is someone who cares about being one! ( Yes, I know, its an odd philisophy but it works for me ) unfortately for me, logic kicked in late on and I started thinking too much and miss my chance to give the girl a kiss to remember! Ah well, crap happens, at least I got another girl to kiss ME on the cheek!
So, What did I learn?
* Thinking too about on the spot before doing something is a BAD idea!
* There is hope for us all!
* You can get away with acting a little AFCish, the key is to NOT CARE ABOUT IT.
As well as that, I also learned that I also REALLY need to get a job of some sort! I need more money to go places and such! That and I want to move of home this year! But thats another matter entirely.
What do I need to do? I need to attenpt some cold approaches, I really need to read about that in the DJ bible again. Hopefully, I'll attempt some in the next 2 weeks or maybe I should set myself a specific date to make some attmepts or something.
Anyways, until next time, The Journey Continues......
NHY
