Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
This is what that girl did to me. She was very flirty, and I was flirty back, but once I started to make my intentions of wanting a clearcut relationship including ANY form of intamacy she backed off and pulled out the LJBF. And then went further by turning me down because she didn't want to date someone shorter than her again (she has in the past, but all of a sudden not for me), and that I should find someone more 'my type' (cause apparently she knows what's best for me).Originally posted by DrSoSuave
This is better than a girl that LJBF but acts flirty or asks you to hang out. Or the types that NEVER say anything but will LJBF or tell you to stop if you make any romantic moves.
I have a couple of attention "wh0re" friends. The only thing you should be concerned about is what you get out of it. If you're going somewhere, ask if she wants to come along. Also, never depend on her or make the whole event circling around her, it should be you.Originally posted by sfalexi
So I was offended. But I just stopped. She's a complete AW, with ALL the signs, and now that I'm ignoring her she's begging for attention (asking me if I want to eat lunch, but if I end up agreeing she asks me if I'll pick it up and then bring it to her place, etc. etc.)
Alexi
There must be a good witty retort to this too.and that I should find someone more 'my type' (cause apparently she knows what's best for me).
I was going to confront her on this another time I met her. I figured it'd be best to ask her in person, just out of the blue the next time I saw her. But by that point, I really didn't want to bother seeing her. So I left it alone. I'll let her contemplate what my type is as she learns more about me and becomes more intrigued/interested in me. It'll be a long road cause I have to overcome some of her mental blocks, but I seem to be doing allright so far.Originally posted by AverageFC
There must be a good witty retort to this too.
"So what is my type?" heh
Those first sentences were right on the money. That second part about asking her what was favourable/unfavourable about you....total garbage no offense.Originally posted by DrSoSuave
When a girl LJBF you after a couple dates, don't act bitter. Be happy knowing she is saving you time and energy. Yes this is her way of dumping you (and you two aren't really going to be friends.)
I would take the time to ask what areas that was favorable and disfavorable about you. It's her honest moment, take advantage of that and then say good bye and don't plan on calling her.
This is better than a girl that LJBF but acts flirty or asks you to hang out. Or the types that NEVER say anything but will LJBF or tell you to stop if you make any romantic moves.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
I'd like to add a 'ny' to that. Girls aren't funnygirls aren't fun