"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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There's this girl I've been chatting online for a couple of days. Asked for her phone number but she refused. I said BYE. She sent me a message and couldn't believe I would let her go just like that (we had a lot of fun). I said, if you were interested you would have given me the number. She said "interested in what? :)". I said, BYE. Once again she sent me a message telling me that she had a great time with me but her girlfriend told her some scary stuff about meeting people online. (an excuse?) :rolleyes: OK, so I thought we'll chat more and get to know each other and we'll see then.

I added her to my MSN. She went away for a week. As for MSN, I guess she might have blocked me or something cos she was never online when she got back. Well, I asked last time for her ICQ and she ignored me for more than a week.

Yesterday, I send her a "ping" message just to see if she'll react. Ignore.

Fine I send her a message. "I thought you were different but you're the same as all these *****es here. Ignoring me = no respect for me = GAME OVER. Besides, I don't need to hear your BS excuses any longer. Take care."

NEXT!

I realized I really don't need this BS in my life. I don't and won't tolerate flaking out on me! I feel better and way more powerful now, knowing that I have no problems nexting a girl even if I liked her a lot.

What do you think? Was the situation handled properly?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Umm.

Two ways you could have handled it:

#1) Continued with the fun that you guys have. Build up some more rapport and then hint at taking it to the next level. If she refuses and thats all you want from her then yes ...tell her it was fun but if it aint going anywhere your out of here. Don't answer her back ...do what you said - YOUR OUT OF HERE.

#2) Just next her. You didn't need to send that last message man infact it made you come off as a little desperate.

Just forget about her. Play the game ...and win.

Laters boss :)
 
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#1 was my initial plan, that's why I asked for her ICQ so we can IM in a real time, not PM.

As for my last message, consider the fact that I did wait more than a week before trying to contact her again. I really hate when they disrespect me like that. And as we won't see each other EVER I wanted her to know that I won't let anyone treat me that way.

I guess I want too much if I want a woman to tell me "I ain't interested, bye" :p

Game on, boss :cool:
 
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Fine I send her a message. "I thought you were different but you're the same as all these *****es here. Ignoring me = no respect for me = GAME OVER. Besides, I don't need to hear your BS excuses any longer. Take care."

What do you think? Was the situation handled properly?
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Only if you wanted to sound like a 3 year old throwing all of their toys out of the pram. Never let it show that she got to you. As far as she's concerned she should have gone away with the feeling that she didn't even ripple the pond.
 
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Please tell me your a troll?

If you're for real, get a big bucket, big enough for your head to fit in. Fill the bucket with beer. Put your head in the bucket and try and breath through your nose as normal. Keep doing this for 4 minutes.
Rinse and Repeat. 3 times.

Whats the point of this?
I'm hoping you'll damage you're memory, and forget everything you think you know about picking up.

You Sir, are in such bad shape. You need to start all over again in your learning.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Well, another lesson learned ;-)

It's just that I have this sick urge to let her know she ****ed up :cheer:

OK, so you are saying that once I get "there", I won't care and next here right away?
 
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Originally posted by arlanda
Well, another lesson learned ;-)

It's just that I have this sick urge to let her know she ****ed up :cheer:

OK, so you are saying that once I get "there", I won't care and next here right away?
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You didn't next her. You didn't do ANYTHING right.

You were rejected by her. You could have left with some dignity, but hell, you gave that to her aswell.

This might come off as odd. But try meeting a girl in REAL life.

a) You'll learn more.
b) Its more fun.
c) You might get laid.
 
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