huge_guy_pimpin
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i gave her a second chance, she stood me up, NEXT!
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
That's the right attitude! Thank you for not coming on here and saying:Originally posted by huge_guy_pimpin
i gave her a second chance, she stood me up, NEXT!
you welcome, i look forward to more posts by youOriginally posted by diablo
That's the right attitude! Thank you for not coming on here and saying:
"I met this hot girl and she liked me so we set up a date but she was too busy cleaning her room so she wanted to reschedule but when I called the next week she still wasn't done cleaning her closet so I don't know if that means she likes me or doesnt please guys help cuz if she does then I think I should do some neg-hits but if she does then waht should i do!?!!?!!!?!!! HELP!"
Yes, thank you.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
very nice.Originally posted by DeathDealer
I once got stood up. The funny thing was she kept calling me once every 1-2 hours telling me she was going to be there.
Meet time: 9pm at some comedy club. Friday night.
1st call: 9:45pm "Oh I have to drop my friend at the airport, I'll give you a call later"
2nd call: 11:00pm (I didn't pick up cause of pride and I went over to a local bar and was listening to some live rock band) - She left a voicemial message. "Oh I hope you're there still, I probably can make it if you give me a call and let me know you're still there"
I nexted her but only after a "make up" pseudo-date in which I made her do all the work (paying for drinks/food/giving me a ride.) - I think she realized that and tried to setup another date with me but by then once was enough. Ah, we didn't have much in common anyways.
Would you let a friend do that to you? I don't mind friends coming in late 15-30 minutes, but after that I just start driving elsewhere and if they call and complain. I've lost a couple of friends this way, but I call it weeding them out. It's just basic respect.