Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Next move, advice needed.

ematsuda

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I was dating a waitress in a bar (Sarah) that my friends and I hang out in frequently. This past Sunday while working she sat by me to talk and the bartendress came by and asked me "where's Carrie (a girl I took to lunch the day before)" right in front of her. Everything went cool that night, so I thought, but she seemed somewhat distant after that comment. The girl I took to lunch is just a drinking buddy and I don't have any feelings for whatsoever. However, I think Sarah may have took it the wrong way. You see the bartendress is a good friend of Carrie's and I think she told Sarah that we hang out a lot and went to lunch the day before. We do hang out, but just as friends - there's no intimacy there. Now I call, text and email Sarah (once each), but she doesn't respond. She's ignoring me. Gut instinct tells me she's upset.

So the next time I go in the bar and she's there, what would be the best play? How should I act? Ignore her back? Try to reason/explain to her what's actually going on (I may not be capable of this)?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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No, don't reason with her -_-.
Even better, don't bring it up.
Just be normal, say hi, don't try to ignore her.
 

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No don't try and explain anything. Just be a fun guy to be around. No need to ignore anyone - you haven't done anything wrong.
 

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Pretend like nothing ever happened, act the way u did before, if she cares she will ask you ab the other chic and then u get the chance to explain....
 
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