"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Maximummax

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I went to this store twice in a month to buy pair of sunglasses, first time for my self and second time for my friend today. i was talking to this girl who seem friendly and nice. i never hit on her, i was warm and friendly. I suggested that we should meet up for a happy hour drink and she told told me yes, than i face book'ed her. now When is the right time for me to send her a message and please suggest me What should i write to her.
I was thinking of something like this "Would like to grab a drink on thu@ 7 at austins"
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Scars

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Sounds good. Keep it short and simple, but make it a little more demanding or rather, rephrase it so it's not so much question-like or expecting to get flaked on.

"Hey you! Austins thur @ 7 for drinks. See you there. :)"

^ That would be more my style. But do whatever works for you man.

-Scars
 

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Go with what you originally said. Don't let yourself slip into the frame where you "need" to be some uber-dominant FORCE. You don't. Don't focus on that, only be on red alert for the key things a girl will test you with. You don't have to be a control freak who constantly TELLS her what's gonna happen. It's one of the traps a lot of guys fall into... Ties in with the "be alpha" thing, some guys get so caught up in ensuring they are "dominant" that it actually ****s everything up for them.

You can phrase things as a question don't listen to people who advise you constantly bark orders at a girl. With some things you will get better results by just doing (for example, kissing, escalating, because in many cases girls get caught up in the emotions of the moment and will go along with it)...

See, there's a HUUUUUGE difference between asking, and expecting a bad response. Asking would be something like "hey wanna grab drinks with me on thursday?", expecting failure would be "hey, you can say no, but would you wanna have a drink with me thursday?"
 

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Go with what you said, it sounds good
and pick a place which is cool to sit and talk, no loud noise
good luck, let me see what other folks have to say
 

Maximummax

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I just did :) , with the above suggestions
let me see what happens. Thanks Guys
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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