"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Maximummax

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I went to this store twice in a month to buy pair of sunglasses, first time for my self and second time for my friend today. i was talking to this girl who seem friendly and nice. i never hit on her, i was warm and friendly. I suggested that we should meet up for a happy hour drink and she told told me yes, than i face book'ed her. now When is the right time for me to send her a message and please suggest me What should i write to her.
I was thinking of something like this "Would like to grab a drink on thu@ 7 at austins"
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Scars

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Sounds good. Keep it short and simple, but make it a little more demanding or rather, rephrase it so it's not so much question-like or expecting to get flaked on.

"Hey you! Austins thur @ 7 for drinks. See you there. :)"

^ That would be more my style. But do whatever works for you man.

-Scars
 

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Go with what you originally said. Don't let yourself slip into the frame where you "need" to be some uber-dominant FORCE. You don't. Don't focus on that, only be on red alert for the key things a girl will test you with. You don't have to be a control freak who constantly TELLS her what's gonna happen. It's one of the traps a lot of guys fall into... Ties in with the "be alpha" thing, some guys get so caught up in ensuring they are "dominant" that it actually ****s everything up for them.

You can phrase things as a question don't listen to people who advise you constantly bark orders at a girl. With some things you will get better results by just doing (for example, kissing, escalating, because in many cases girls get caught up in the emotions of the moment and will go along with it)...

See, there's a HUUUUUGE difference between asking, and expecting a bad response. Asking would be something like "hey wanna grab drinks with me on thursday?", expecting failure would be "hey, you can say no, but would you wanna have a drink with me thursday?"
 

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Go with what you said, it sounds good
and pick a place which is cool to sit and talk, no loud noise
good luck, let me see what other folks have to say
 

Maximummax

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I just did :) , with the above suggestions
let me see what happens. Thanks Guys
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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