You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Your story reminds me of howOriginally posted by DonJoey:
I went to a friend's party with his family (they party hard).
Was gonna get seriously drunk but after doing so on christmas eve the smell of burbon made me feel sick so we smoked cubans till midnight.
Then at midnight as we kissed his family members on the cheek, his sister in law who I had/have the hots for, made a move on last year and eventually wrote off as a low interest prospect sees me in the distance and runs over for a kiss, as i'm about to give her the usual one as I did everyone else, she grabs me for the tightest hug and kiss...man to feel her breasts pressed against my chest and as I made her laugh with a comment, her warm breath on my neck sent me in a spin.
I held her a while longer than normal and gave her a slap on the ass as she walked away with a smile.
Maybe distance has made her heart grow fonder? Who knows....i'll retest the waters in due time.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Yes! Holy shyt! That's so fvcking awesome. I am so proud of you bro. Keep it up.Originally posted by It's a game !:
Well this one is thanks to Mr. Jake Steed !!!
Thanks a mil for the great advice you gave me on the rave !!
Allright , well the girl that I wrote off did what was inevitable.. Flirted with other guys like crazy !!!
She kept walking around hand in hand with this girly guy !!! She even layed down on this one guy right smack in front of me !!
But, she did spend the New Years Countdown on my shoulders, and we Kissed at Midnight, which was great.. And we also kissed a couple of times during the night..
But guess what !!! She was all tired at 5 in the morning and actually left the rave.
(Rave ended at noon), and it was planned that I'd go to her house after the rave..
But I didn't go ! I stayed ! With a girl that was with us.. Used to be a great friend of the girl mentionned above, but now they really don't like each other, but they're friendly out of hypocrisy..
Well after the girl mentionned above left.. Me and this girl were ALLLLLL OVEEERRR EACHHH OOTHHHHEEERRRR !!! From 5 in the morning up until 11... Massaging, making out, neck kissing, she jacked me off, I fingered her, and the best............
WE FVCKED !!!!!!!!!!! AT THE RAVE !!!!!!!
ON ECXTASY !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Then afterwards, I dropped her off, went to the girl mentionned above's house, chilled out with her all day, then kissed her on the lips before I left !!!!!