"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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hi all, id first like to start my issue by stating a few precedents:

1.) ive never been in a relationship before
2.) im still a virgin
3.) the girl im trying to get hooked up with has had 4 relationships prior to myself, and just broke up with her last bf 1 week before she met me.
4.) im a sophomore at college, and she is as well, and we both live in the same building, one floor apart


Ok, well...I met this girl through my roomate, because he is boning the roomate of the girl i like. The two of us hit it off pretty well at the beginning, for example after a few days of knowing her, we started goin out to dinner together and hanging out more often. Eventually, we started hanging out late at night, watching movies and so on.. Well, last thursday during the movie I gave some body language to see if she would react, and she did...so she took off her over-shirt and then we started making out a littlee....she got scared then left the room, b/c she broke up w/ her bf and i think she was just way too anxious at the time to continue making out with me...well 5 mins later she came back down to apologize, and then we hugged and stuff...so the next night, we go out to a party....I hit it off pretty good, giving her enough attention to show that I care and stuff, without being whipped etc..still maintaining confidence.. so after the party, we go back to her room, and we make out for a really long time, after which she said we should stop (was about like 10 minutes in length..) b/c she had to wake up the next day in 6 hours to drive home for her mom's birthday. well she came back to school earlier tonight (sunday) and we started talking to each other online...and i asked if she wanted to come chill in my room and watch some tv...but the problem was, as she quickly jumped to correct me, was that "I never pay attention" when she talks to me...because in our convo, she told me that she was tired, and i followed it up with "wanna come chill and watch tv" ...

so now she is all like hey im tired im gonna go to bed etc, but she isnt as responsive during the convo as she normally is, and I can sense some anger in her towards me.... My real question is guys, is this a really bad sign? or is it just her pms'ing and having a bad day etc...

anyways any questions / comments / tips will be appreciated, im a newbie to relationships.. oh and on a final note, i really really like her, but im not sure if i should be rushing everything that im doin. Plus, I need a lot more tips on how to improve our relationship from here at this point. We aren't boyfriend and girlfriend yet, but I would dream to become her girlfriend.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Originally posted by SmoothKhan
We aren't boyfriend and girlfriend yet, but I would dream to become her girlfriend.
Just wanted to point that out and bump your post a little to attract attention. I'm only 16, virgin, never had GF, but moving forward in my life.

I hope older, more experience DJs can help you. From what i've read, you're doing well.
 

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First welcome to this board.

You will probably **** this thing up and the next 10 girls too, take your time to learn from your mistakes, stand up from the bull**** she's giving you and stop the ****ing overanalyzing! What I mean by this is to take it easy, you will feel how things are going in some way. If you feel something holds you back then you are doing something wrong and she lack interest. Don't sweat too much on this or you'll end up more oneitis than you already are.

Take some time and improving yourself too, start to work out (look at DIESELS guide to bulking/cutting) if you do not already do this. The better you look and feel about yourself and your life the more you will have to give and the more damands you can place on your girls.

Good luck
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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