"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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New theory on approaching women

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what I said does have some truth to it, and here is why.

Once I can tallk to a women, or in otherwords get her attention I am fine. However alot of women advoid giving out normal signals such as direct eye contact becuase they are imtimidated than when I am hanging with my little sister at the park in gym clothes . It's the same thing guys do, alot of people here, so why it is so hard to believe?

I would post my picture, but to be honest I don't like it to much, but me and a friend of mine are getting pitures made later this week, I will be happy to post then.

I didn't start this post to say how good looking I am; to be honest I could care less, as long as I am able to get the things I want in life, but the fact is women do consider me to be very good looking, it's no shame in that.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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also, looking good has cursed me in the sense where as I h onestly don't have to try as hard to talk to women as most guys. That's good but it makes me not practice my DJ skills like i should, because I am skating by on my looks.
 

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Yes, I hate threads where good looking guys whine they are too good looking. There is no such thing as too good looking. With a bit of confidence and the balls to approach girls, you can get some of the hottest girls around. You don't need "signals" from girls-just approach them. If you are as hot as you say you are they will go for you. Just tone down the ****iness and develop a bit of a personality.

I thought the comment the second person made about beautiful girls not being approached enough, isn't hammered in enough on this site. Sure the outgoing, nightclub girls get hit on all the time, but in normal life a lot of beautiful girls do get passed by-especially as they are too shy to approach themselves, as most men are intimidated by them.
 
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