rkthrills80
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First I live in Orange County, CA....there's no lack of hot girls..anyways here's the story...
I was in line at my admissions and records office at my college, there was a cute girl behind me and I starting small talking with her about how the line is as least better than the one at the DMV...blah...blah...there was then a moment of silence and then she introduced herself to me. We talked about majors and stuff, so I asked her out to coffee at starbucks, and I got her number. This was a friday! I called the Sunday of that week and left a voice mail..."Hey Kate! It's the guy you met in the admissions line the other day, call me when you get this, later"
She called back on Wednesday of that next week, I maybe talked to her for 10 minutes to set up a coffee date that same night. I met up with her around 7:30 and I only planned to stay there for an hour. We had so much in common it was amazing. Finally at 11:30 I called it quits cuz i had to go to work in 4 hours. During the coffee date I set up the second date for that Saturday. And I made it firm! I didn't call her or text her the rest of the week until Saturday at 9:30am. I asked about her week and her classes and stuff, and then he asks if we were still on for lunch. I said "yeah I think so, around 12 right?" I picked her up at her apartments and we went to Huntington Beach for some mexican food. The entire way there we talked about almost everything except past relationships, sex, religion, and politics. After lunch we walked out the the pier. On the peir I told her a story about my surfing adventure and then I related it to her kart racing experiences and then kissing someone for the first time...then I kissed her. Nothing spectacular, but not a bad first kiss. Then we walked down by the ocean, no kino or anything...when we got to the spot where my car was parked, she said, "is there anywhere to sit?" "I said how about in the water!" and I picked her up and started walking to the water, she kinda freaked out, but not in a bad way. I initaited anther kiss, we made out for 10 seconds at the most. We walked back to my car...again not kino from me or her. I drove her home..we talked the entire way, when I got her to her place, I kissed her good bye.
THAT WAS IT!!!!! There was no indication from her that I came on too strong, or not enough. I called her the next day by accident cuz I thought she called me Saturday night to invite me to hangout with her and friends for dinner on sunday....it turned out it was my friend Connie who called me from her house phone (which isn't stored in my cell phone) She sounded exactly like Kate becuae I was at a basketball game and I couldn't hear clearly. Anyways Kate didn't anwser her phone so I left a message. She didn't call back...I called her again on friday that next week...no answern and i left a message. Thats where I'm at.
My possible conclusions:
1. My phone call on Sunday was intrepreted as being needy/disperate whcih could have been a deal breaker.
2. I was too open with myself and she heard something that I said that was a deal breaker/turn-off.
Honestly I didn't know and it would be nice to hear her opinion of me so I can better myself.
There's two sides to this equation....me on one side and some girl on the other. Now there's no way to control the factors of the girl on the other side. However I want myself to be consistent, do the same thing everytime no matter what the girls thinks and only do what works for me. Basically I've read all of stuff from this site and others...but there's NO ONE TO COACH ME TO POINT OUT WHAT I"M DOING RIGHT OR WRONG!
I'm tired of wasting my time, money and energy on girls that have a chance of flaking out. This is how i want to work it...I meet a girl and I ask her out for coffee...(I'm doing coffee because all summer I went out with 10 girls and spent an average of $40.00 per date and got no where) I will use stories, kino, and cold reading to establish a connection. After the coffee date i will attempt to kiss her. If she dosn't go for it than that it! NEXT! If i do kiss her that it on. I wait 3 days to call her, but not on a weekend! I'll invite her over to my house for dinner and a movie. If sex happens great its a bonus, but I'm not going to expect it, however I will make every move until she stays stop. After that date again I'll call her every 2-3 days, but not a weekend and only 1 date per week and only during the weekdays...I'm do busy surfing or hanging with frineds. No more playing it safe with these chicks....as far as I'm concern these girls have to prove that they are cool.
If anyone has any insight please speak now or forever hold your peace...lol my sister got married a few months ago haha!!!!
I was in line at my admissions and records office at my college, there was a cute girl behind me and I starting small talking with her about how the line is as least better than the one at the DMV...blah...blah...there was then a moment of silence and then she introduced herself to me. We talked about majors and stuff, so I asked her out to coffee at starbucks, and I got her number. This was a friday! I called the Sunday of that week and left a voice mail..."Hey Kate! It's the guy you met in the admissions line the other day, call me when you get this, later"
She called back on Wednesday of that next week, I maybe talked to her for 10 minutes to set up a coffee date that same night. I met up with her around 7:30 and I only planned to stay there for an hour. We had so much in common it was amazing. Finally at 11:30 I called it quits cuz i had to go to work in 4 hours. During the coffee date I set up the second date for that Saturday. And I made it firm! I didn't call her or text her the rest of the week until Saturday at 9:30am. I asked about her week and her classes and stuff, and then he asks if we were still on for lunch. I said "yeah I think so, around 12 right?" I picked her up at her apartments and we went to Huntington Beach for some mexican food. The entire way there we talked about almost everything except past relationships, sex, religion, and politics. After lunch we walked out the the pier. On the peir I told her a story about my surfing adventure and then I related it to her kart racing experiences and then kissing someone for the first time...then I kissed her. Nothing spectacular, but not a bad first kiss. Then we walked down by the ocean, no kino or anything...when we got to the spot where my car was parked, she said, "is there anywhere to sit?" "I said how about in the water!" and I picked her up and started walking to the water, she kinda freaked out, but not in a bad way. I initaited anther kiss, we made out for 10 seconds at the most. We walked back to my car...again not kino from me or her. I drove her home..we talked the entire way, when I got her to her place, I kissed her good bye.
THAT WAS IT!!!!! There was no indication from her that I came on too strong, or not enough. I called her the next day by accident cuz I thought she called me Saturday night to invite me to hangout with her and friends for dinner on sunday....it turned out it was my friend Connie who called me from her house phone (which isn't stored in my cell phone) She sounded exactly like Kate becuae I was at a basketball game and I couldn't hear clearly. Anyways Kate didn't anwser her phone so I left a message. She didn't call back...I called her again on friday that next week...no answern and i left a message. Thats where I'm at.
My possible conclusions:
1. My phone call on Sunday was intrepreted as being needy/disperate whcih could have been a deal breaker.
2. I was too open with myself and she heard something that I said that was a deal breaker/turn-off.
Honestly I didn't know and it would be nice to hear her opinion of me so I can better myself.
There's two sides to this equation....me on one side and some girl on the other. Now there's no way to control the factors of the girl on the other side. However I want myself to be consistent, do the same thing everytime no matter what the girls thinks and only do what works for me. Basically I've read all of stuff from this site and others...but there's NO ONE TO COACH ME TO POINT OUT WHAT I"M DOING RIGHT OR WRONG!
I'm tired of wasting my time, money and energy on girls that have a chance of flaking out. This is how i want to work it...I meet a girl and I ask her out for coffee...(I'm doing coffee because all summer I went out with 10 girls and spent an average of $40.00 per date and got no where) I will use stories, kino, and cold reading to establish a connection. After the coffee date i will attempt to kiss her. If she dosn't go for it than that it! NEXT! If i do kiss her that it on. I wait 3 days to call her, but not on a weekend! I'll invite her over to my house for dinner and a movie. If sex happens great its a bonus, but I'm not going to expect it, however I will make every move until she stays stop. After that date again I'll call her every 2-3 days, but not a weekend and only 1 date per week and only during the weekdays...I'm do busy surfing or hanging with frineds. No more playing it safe with these chicks....as far as I'm concern these girls have to prove that they are cool.
If anyone has any insight please speak now or forever hold your peace...lol my sister got married a few months ago haha!!!!
