"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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New Prospect, Don't Want To Screw It Up

SmoothOperator

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I met this girl the other day through a mutual friend, and she's really cool. We've hung out a few times in groups, and both times have ended in me driving her home. Now, she goes out of her way to say hi to me and she said, "We should hang out some times." I've tried to work the DJ principles, and I don't want to wait so long that I she LJBFs me. But, girls like her would probably be uncomfortable with an approach since we don't know each other all that well yet. How should I go about getting this girl?

P.S. - Many of you will call this oneitis, which it just may be. But, I have been flirting with other girls a lot. It's just that I have so much in common with this girl that I think we could be good together.

Thanks.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Jerky Boi

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I don't call it oneitis at all. You're wanting to approach a girl. That's all there is too it. If a LTR comes out of it, awesome. If not, then hey, you just gotta move on. But anyways, definitely try and avoid the LJBF at all costs. Establish your romantic interest right away and see what she's doing on the weekend. Don't worry about if you're going to screw it up or not. Just go for it. The less you care about how she's going to react to your approach and the more natural you go about it, the better off the results will be :] Good luck man..
 

Jester

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i wont give u any a dj would stuff dude.


just do it. its not like u even have the disadvantage of low interest, cause unless youre retarded you ca nsee she likes you.
 

Smooth as Anything

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Sounds like the friends zone... unless she is mature (which I doubt).
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Sammo

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Screw it up... Screw it up good. Then smile at the experience and learn from it. This girl is just practise for the more intelligent, more attractive one your going to meet years from now.

Also don't take Jerky Boi's advice the wrong way, when he says establish romantic interest that doesnt mean spill your feelings out to her. Just ask her on a date and she will figure it out on her own and you wont sound like a big vagina.
 
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