"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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new problem, fellow HSDJs

Cassanova_Child

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I'm moving. From New York. No, not to another state.

To Norway (my stepdad's norwegian and he's going to get paid better there or something).

Here's the problem:

1) everything I've learned about this whole thing has been with american girls, and for some reason I think european's are going to be a different mindset entirely. my comedy won't work probably, etc...

2) I DONT SPEAK NORWEGIAN! ok, so the foreigner thing might be able to help in some situations... but still, how can I get with women, when I can't communicate with them?

gaah. I'm not even sure if this is a big deal or not, or if I'm sweating it too much. Really just wanted to vent lol.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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mpimpin

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Relax buddy. See this as an exciting new opportunity!! New girls.. probably lots of fine girls! Use the foreign status as a positive. You can use it in openers etc. You can't screw up! and if you somehow do something stupid they'll let things slide because you are from a different culture in their eyes you don't know better.

I'm sure you have a lot of other things going on in your life. Don't waste time stressing about your game after you move.
 

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This is nothing but a great thing for your game. European women is giving nearly everything for a man from the states.. Trust me, I hate turists from the states.
 

War Against Betaism

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Confidence, poise, game knows no language barriers and limitations. The thing is you're going to be losing confidence because you think you need to speak the same language as them. Just be the same confident guy you were before and learn the language slowly, you don't need to fret.
 

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USA USA USA USA! GOD BLESS THE USA!
Dude, you got it made. lol

"I'm sorry, in my home country we could just rub ladies breasts to check for cancer"


lol, that would be freaking awesome if it worked.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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alright guys thanks, I've calmed down a lot lol. I was just having a bunch of nerves before I guess. Just have to look at the positives and not the negatives.
 

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Excellent advice by pimpin and betaism.

Dont worry about the language barrier at all though, like beta said, "Confidence, poise, game knows no language barriers and limitations" (I like that quote). Even if you learned a few words here and there, such as "Hello, my name is ----", and then gave them a smile while saying it, I bet they would go crazy over you! They would be thinking stuff like "Aww omg his accent is so cute! Hes American and hes really cute and sexy". Trust me, thats EXACTLY what will go through their minds.
 
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