New plate, contacts me asks me for a ride, tell her take bus.

[AJ84]

I'm aware of that. I have a pretty good sense of when women want to fvck. They're extremely subtle about it.



I didn't learn anything here. Just tell her to find a ride somewhere else and fvck her again if she comes back. If not, delete the number and find a woman who's considerate. There's no point in trying to read into an inconsiderate line of text. When you get the line "I need a favor" from a woman you're not in a relationship with, it generally involves getting something shoved up your ass instead of shoving your d1ck into her ass.

Learning at what point to unclench, remove the armour and do a favour for a girl you are sleeping with where you don't feel like you lost some frame. Not everything is about losing something by doing something nice for another person.

And again, if he really doesn't want to he can make an excuse that's not off putting to her. There are ways to get out of doing stuff he doesn't want to do without pissing off the other person.

 

[fanatic22]

Why are you so adamant on this guy randomly driving his plate around for?

It sucks and he doesn't want to do it.

I think the bigger issue is becoming overly zealous about “maintaining frame” and subsequently 1. missing what I think was a fairly clear hint from the girl that she was looking to sleep with him 2. responding like an angry human being who treats people interested in him like trash.

Someone who is truly self confident and emotionally independent would have seen that hint or at least denied the request in a moderate way.

 

[Spaz]

It's ultimately ur call since u r in a better position 2 assuage her reasoning couple with her past character, ie she was using u 2 often etc, then u r perfectly correct to tell her to take the bus.

I suspect you got irritated since she has gotten used 2 u being nice to her.

If that's is the case; good job !

And if that's not the case then u just lost a plate by not handling it more diplomatically.

 

[AJ84]

Why are you so adamant on this guy randomly driving his plate around for?

It sucks and he doesn't want to do it.

I'm not haha. I actually suggested in my responses that there are better ways to say no. No one wants to be a taxis service of course and I'm not suggesting that. But if he chooses do a favour to her it's not like he lost something and the key here is what he chooses do to or not do and how he communicates that in a way that still gets him what he wants.

 

[Roober]

I think the bigger issue is becoming overly zealous about “maintaining frame” and subsequently 1. missing what I think was a fairly clear hint from the girl that she was looking to sleep with him 2. responding like an angry human being who treats people interested in him like trash.

Someone who is truly self confident and emotionally independent would have seen that hint or at least denied the request in a moderate way.

This right here! What I meant to say, but have trouble getting into words, lol

 

[Desdinova]

And again, if he really doesn't want to he can make an excuse that's not off putting to her. There are ways to get out of doing stuff he doesn't want to do without pissing off the other person.

So should he keep this chick around if he's fvcking two other women on the side? The point comes down to the value of sex vs the value of putting up with bull5hit that may or may not result in getting sex.

If I were to choose, I would just delete the bytch's number.

 

[MoreThanSmooth]

Maybe I sound soft, but in this case I would have picked her up. She's sleeping with you for goodness sake, giving her a hand as a one off with 15-20 mins of driving is reasonable IMO.

If she asked a second time a week later, yeah, I would have been more harsh. Or if she's just taking advantage and doesn't need it. But asking for a "big favour" rather than "ride now plz lol" means she knows she's inconveniencing you and would appreciate your help.

And if you're not going to give her the lift, at least don't be a d*ck about it. Be courteous and polite, like the decent man you are.

I gave my ex a couple of lifts and as payment I got some make outs there and then and the offer of a BJ next time we were alone. It's not like girls that care about you don't reciprocate if you genuinely helped them out.

 

[AJ84]

So should he keep this chick around if he's fvcking two other women on the side? The point comes down to the value of sex vs the value of putting up with bull5hit that may or may not result in getting sex.

If I were to choose, I would just delete the bytch's number.

I'm not saying he has to keep her. I'm not saying he has to put up with bs, I'm not saying he has to drive her anywhere. I'm not sure where you are coming from here Des, but it seems like you are focusing on one or two things that I posted and are coming at me with that without considering the whole post.

I said in one of my first posts that if he has other plates going this probably doesn't matter anyway. I also said he could of said no in another way if he wanted to. Meaning if he actually wants to keep her around.
He's the one who is questioning if his response was too harsh. To me, that implies that he doesn't feel 100% justified in responding the way he did. If he has no problem deleting the bit*hes number then he would do just that and not ponder over the whole thing online.