"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Hey there.

I think this is my first post. Been peeking around for a few years.

Im currently half crippled, my right hand in a splint with a fracture, broke it boxing.

I was out last night and two guys pulled out knives at the train station, while Im standing there sopping wet with my arm in a garbage bag. I scared em off.

Anywho, I went to get a burrito today and there's this lovely young waitress there. I saw her first three weeks ago, and went there every sunday evening to get myself dinner. Every time I go down there and see her, she seems really happy to talk to me, but there's always these old mexican ladies behind the counter giving me the evil eye.

Tonight I went out there to get myself dinner and get her number. We talked quite a bit, but the two old ladies never moved. She liked the story about how I broke my hand, so I mentioned the guys with knives. She was getting handsy with me, telling me she liked going into the city and I should go out to such and such. Said she wasnt married and didnt have any kids. but I chickened out and didnt ask her number, the old ladies right there. I left, she looked really disappointed.

So, Im scared of old mexican ladies more than I am of morons pulling knives on me.

Any thoughts? She told me she closes mondays so I might stop by tomorrow.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I'm glad I'm not alone. Old Mexican ladies give me the spooks too. :L
I'm afraid the only thing to do it to block them out from your focus completely. Try to think they're not watching, because, they probably aren't (Or perhaps they are, but either way). Besides, you've a lovely girl to give your attention to instead.

Handsy is good.
 

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Bruh... What are OLD ladies going to do to you? Your just talkin to some girl At a diner. Dude there is nothing to be scared of . You have nuts not a vaginA. Grab your nuts and ask this girl for her number.
 

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yeah, I feel like a cowardly little ****.

I can try again, but she was laying it on thick tonight and she looked disappointed when I left. Shes 23 and I dont wanna get her in trouble at work. They have a patio outside, Im thinking mebbe Ill use that as an excuse to get her away from the hags, order my food and wait outside for her to bring it.

Any other thoughts? I think Im gonna have to just ignore the hags.
 

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Went back Monday, she wasn't there, but I found out when she closes. Went back Teusday, and caught her with just the grill cook. Got her #. Wooo
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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About 5 years ago I lived in what was then the most dangerous city in the US. Not going to give it away, but you can look it up if you want. I've had knives pulled on me a couple of times, and a gun pulled on me once. Big ups to you for scaring off two dudes with knives while you have a broken arm. Most of the guys who whip them out are cowards, but every once in a while you will get someone who will use it. One of my good friends fought back to one of those dudes and paid the price with a broken jaw and a couple knife wounds. Scary sh!t.

These elderly ladies are nothing. They probably don't even speak English to be honest. Just ask for the girls number when you get the chance. If she says no, just chalk it up to female craziness. It seems as though she wants a piece of what you're servin, so just play it cool. Good luck dude, and watch out on them streets.

Edit: Didn't see you got the #. Nevermind.
 

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lessee how it goes. I been meeting a lot of ladies recently, which has been great.

I took up a bastardized local aikido about 4 years ago, since I was spending a lot of time in the city late at night so that I could draw. I try to play as smart as I can, but the stuff goes on around here is frightening.
 

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Moog said:
lessee how it goes. I been meeting a lot of ladies recently, which has been great.

I took up a bastardized local aikido about 4 years ago
I was thinking of doing that, how is the training on that if you have no expierence in martial arts what so ever?

* not to thread jack.. private message me if need be. Thanks.
 

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Its not heavy training, mind. Pick your teachers carefully. Know enough that when the situation DOES arrive, get the other guy on the floor and hurting and then run like hell. lol

Its hard to generalize. What I do isnt traditional aikido. Its intended to be practical. Effectively, you learn a few maneuvers youre really comfortable with and grow skilled at them, and learn to use them effectively from anywhere. I love this, for example...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=loUJH_JgkhY

Its a judo move

Im a heavy guy, though. Boxing is probably really great.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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