Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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New here, interesting site + 1 question.

Memnock

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Funny I should stumble onto this site. I'll be 30 in a couple weeks, and it's sad that I don't even have a basic understanding of a woman's psyche. Seriously, I've been in relationships before, even have a kid, and I don't have a clue how a woman's thought process works.

I'm hoping this place might give me some insight.

Every relationship I've ever had has been a failure. My son's mother, lived with her for about 3 years and those were the most miserable 3 years of my life. My last girlfriend, after about 8 months of being with her, she starts acting wierd. I end up breaking up with her, even though I was, and still am, very much in love with her. Come to find out several months later from her best friend that the reason she started acting wierd with me is because she was still in love with her ex boyfriend... almost a year later and I couldn't make her forget about the guy... talk about making a guy feel like an absolute loser.

Anyhow, I've gotten to the point to almost completely give up on relationships, women, etc. except for the undeniable fact that life is much, much sweeter when you have a woman's affection. It's something I can't live without, I wouldn't want to, and it's something I can't give up on.

So what it boils down to, is that I must be doing something terribly wrong that prevents me from keeping a woman interested in me.

My friends joke around that I must be really lousy in bed.. and maybe I am for all I know. But then again, if I was, they why have I had two ex girlfriends come back to me just for sex when they've already been involved with someone else (I know that makes them sluts and me no better, but who can turn down free pvssy? - the point I'm trying to make is that if I were lousy in bed, why would they want to continue to have sex with me after breaking up?)

Anyhow like I said, I have no clue, it's all a big mistery to me. For years I've always thought I'm doing the right things, being romantic, respectfull, giving her her freedom, etc... yet I can't seem to keep a healthy relationship with a woman... yet my friend, who treats his girl like crap, cheats on her like it's an Olympic sport and he's trying out for Team USA, has her eating out of his hand. I'm not kidding either. This girl absolutely worships him.

I don't get it, and like I said, hopefully I'll get some intelligent advice here.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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hey,

You've found a good place to start. I was very much like you to start off, put yourself back in control and practice what you learn.
 

undesputable

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yea read the anti dump posts....really really recommend them to find true love. http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/
theyre toward the bottom of the page and is a series of posts.
 
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