"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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new her and want to gain DJ powers, need some hints please

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Hi,

so I just found this page and I looked a bit around, my problem is, here is so much to discover and I dunno where and how to start, is there a summary for all of these "tactics and tricks", I really want to learn.

my strenghts:

I am not a bad looking guy, but also not brad pitt. I do not fear to approach women and to grab their numbers, therefore I have got already strong self confidence. I have no problem with eye contact, I never look away, it just doesn't scare me. when I date a girl, I am never nervous or insecure, it is no big deal for me.

my problems:

-sometimes I make rookie mistakes, or as you call AFC?
- I am emotional and therefore often lead by feelings.
- sometimes I dunno what to say as an opener, when I approach
- I often end up in sexual affairs with hot mature women (mid 30s)
- I feel like I am "too dumb" to get a woman for a long relationship (my real goal)


please help and give me some advice, has someone of you wrote a summary that ist "fool proof"? where should I start, how can I become a "veteran" in this field.

thanks in advance
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Let me save you a lot of headache. There are literally volumes of information available here, most of which is quite good. However, reading everything you can get your hands on will confuse you after a while.
First things first, Inner Game.
Download the DJ Bible, read the section dedicated to inner game. READ NO FURTHER. Seek articles by the following members:

Pook (must read. his best articles are "Kill that desperation!" and "Be a Man!" as well as "The Secret of the Jerk"
terminator911
There is also a post called "The Book of Woman" its excellent.

There are two possible paths to mastery. One is to study from a variety of masters, and synthesize different methods to form a module that you are comfortable with. However, this is confusing and time consuming because there are many self-proclaimed masters and they sometimes contradict each other. This is what I do, but its not the way to go.

The other path is to pick one method and master it completely, which will give you faster results, and you will retain much of what you learn. This is the best method, in retrospect. If I had to do it all over again, I would have selected one Master to study from. That said, the Grand Masters are as follows

Ross Jefferies (the man who started it all)

MYSTERY - real name: Eric Von Markovic

Style - real name: Neil Strauss

David Deangelo

Tyler Durden

As well as:
Thundercatt

Carlos Xuma

Derek Vitalio

Swinggcat

My two personal favs are Deangelo and Mystery, but Mystery is the greatest on earth. He hosts LIVE bootcamps where he demonstrates his stuff IN THE FIELD. However, Myster assumes that you have moderate game already, i.e the Mystery Method is not intended to be taught to newbies. Start with Deangelo, then switch when you are ready.
 

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thanks guys, this is so much stuff, but it seems to be well structured, at least there is some sort of system, first to build your confidence up, after the tricks.

I will stay tuned here:)
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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