"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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new her and want to gain DJ powers, need some hints please

Mr.Speed

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Hi,

so I just found this page and I looked a bit around, my problem is, here is so much to discover and I dunno where and how to start, is there a summary for all of these "tactics and tricks", I really want to learn.

my strenghts:

I am not a bad looking guy, but also not brad pitt. I do not fear to approach women and to grab their numbers, therefore I have got already strong self confidence. I have no problem with eye contact, I never look away, it just doesn't scare me. when I date a girl, I am never nervous or insecure, it is no big deal for me.

my problems:

-sometimes I make rookie mistakes, or as you call AFC?
- I am emotional and therefore often lead by feelings.
- sometimes I dunno what to say as an opener, when I approach
- I often end up in sexual affairs with hot mature women (mid 30s)
- I feel like I am "too dumb" to get a woman for a long relationship (my real goal)


please help and give me some advice, has someone of you wrote a summary that ist "fool proof"? where should I start, how can I become a "veteran" in this field.

thanks in advance
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Let me save you a lot of headache. There are literally volumes of information available here, most of which is quite good. However, reading everything you can get your hands on will confuse you after a while.
First things first, Inner Game.
Download the DJ Bible, read the section dedicated to inner game. READ NO FURTHER. Seek articles by the following members:

Pook (must read. his best articles are "Kill that desperation!" and "Be a Man!" as well as "The Secret of the Jerk"
terminator911
There is also a post called "The Book of Woman" its excellent.

There are two possible paths to mastery. One is to study from a variety of masters, and synthesize different methods to form a module that you are comfortable with. However, this is confusing and time consuming because there are many self-proclaimed masters and they sometimes contradict each other. This is what I do, but its not the way to go.

The other path is to pick one method and master it completely, which will give you faster results, and you will retain much of what you learn. This is the best method, in retrospect. If I had to do it all over again, I would have selected one Master to study from. That said, the Grand Masters are as follows

Ross Jefferies (the man who started it all)

MYSTERY - real name: Eric Von Markovic

Style - real name: Neil Strauss

David Deangelo

Tyler Durden

As well as:
Thundercatt

Carlos Xuma

Derek Vitalio

Swinggcat

My two personal favs are Deangelo and Mystery, but Mystery is the greatest on earth. He hosts LIVE bootcamps where he demonstrates his stuff IN THE FIELD. However, Myster assumes that you have moderate game already, i.e the Mystery Method is not intended to be taught to newbies. Start with Deangelo, then switch when you are ready.
 

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thanks guys, this is so much stuff, but it seems to be well structured, at least there is some sort of system, first to build your confidence up, after the tricks.

I will stay tuned here:)
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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