"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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New guy needing routine/nutrition guidance.

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Long, but its my first post.

I really need some guidance on my meal plan and workout schedule. I'm about 5'11" and weigh 195. When I was younger I got a really bad viral infection and I was on steriods that ballooned me to ~260. For years i was in the 200+ range. About 2 years ago I got pissed enough and started a routine. I lost alot in a short period of time. However, after graduating it wasn't easy finding work in the IT industry, so I was stressed, and stopped working out as much. Even when I started to work, I was too disgusted from my job to even get the energy. So, for about 6 months I was off/on and didn't get the fit midsectin I want. Now that I'm back in the game, I really need some guidance.

Im doing a mix of cardio/weight training. I have really good muscle tone in the arms, legs, chest, but have love handles and some junk left in my stomach. I actually do "well" meeting women. I'm a good looking guy, well put together, but always feel too uptight with my body do even do anything. I'm pissed that I constantly act cold after meeting cute girls so I don't have to end up taking my shirt off. Yes its lame, but I'm really closed and uptight when it comes to that and I need to change things for the better. So, given my workout and nutrition plan listed below, am I doing enought to get me the results I want?

1. Workout: Typical workout (5 days a week) includes about 30 minutes of free-weight training. Then, I ride a stationary bike 20-30 minutes, burning about 300-400 calories.

2. Nutrition: Listed below is my typical day. I don't mind eating the same thing, but do I eat the right things? Do I need to drink protein shakes or add supplements to melt the weight in my sides/stomach?

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Breakfast:
Bowl of Special K with blueberries or strawberries
2 eggwhites
1 piece of whole wheat with Simply Gif PB
1 Glass Skilm Milk with cappuccino mix

Snack 1:
Fruit (orange or bannana) + Odwalla breakfast bar.

Lunch:
Low Fat Turkey breast on Whole wheat, tomoto or roasted peppers.
Low fat yourgurt.

Snack 2:
Large apple.

Dinner.
What ever mamas kitchen serves up.

Snack 3:
Old Fashioned Oatmeal or Cheerios with fruit.
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I appreciate your comments and all of your help. Its funny how I open up to a discussion form more than I would my family, but in some way I feel closer to all of you. Haha.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Are you drinking enough liquids to help digestion? What you have in your stomach may not be fat.
 

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If anything, I may drink too much water. I drink 32 ounces often by 11 a.m, about 3-4 20 ounce bottles up to 6:00, and another 32 or more when working out over 1 hour. Its definitely some jelly in my belly. I prob need to lose 10-20, I guess. However its nice to know I can feel my abs under it when I pinch in, just need to take it off.
 

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What is your goal?
 

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bodybuilding.com

seriously, ignore anything else here and join their boards.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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people parrot bad advice on any forum. you just have to be smart enough to see it.
 

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line_in_the_sand said:
Oh please. Do NOT go to bodybuilding.com. The two best boards on the net are:
www.ironaddicts.com
www.intensemuscle.com

Both are packed with experienced trainers, most of whom are in their 30s, 40s and 50s - which means several years of experience. Bodybuilding.com consists mostly of 18 year olds parroting bad advice.

Simple as that.

I agree! Stay away from bodybuilding.com unless you feel like wasting time. (Obviously some people there know what there talking about, but its hard to find with all the terrible advice surrounding it.)

ironaddicts.com and intensemuscle.com are two of the best forums
 

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The MORE people there are on a board, the MORE people there are giving you bad advice. Go with those two previous links and fortifiediron.com.
 
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