Hi guys, new member here! Hopefully you can give me a bit of help... Basically I’ve no problem meeting women, chatting to them, getting their number or sleeping with them, but after a month or two it’s just ‘not working out’
I never used to be like this, but this last 18 months I was laid off from my job (a pretty important one with the Ministry of Defence), my sister died, my dad got cancer & a bunch of other things happened that knocked me back. I’m not making excuses, it’s all me, & I’ve realised I became needy/clingy as I didn’t have enough other things to focus on.
I’m looking to break the cycle, I have a new job & a laser-like focus on what I want/where I want to go! I just don’t want to fall back into any old traps, I’m here to learn & be the best version of me I can be.
I’m dating a few different girls right now, but I truthfully have a touch of Asperger’s (I tell everyone & it’s never affected my chances with the ladies, one right now used to date a UK pop star) & don’t want to go too far from clingy/needy to being an aloof guy who appears ‘totally’ disinterested in any of the ladies, so any middle ground help would be appreciated.
Also, if possible I’d like to hit a ‘reset‘ button with some of the exes if possible... I’m still friendly with them & honestly don’t care if they’re not interested any more, there’s plenty more for me to focus on, but it’d be a fun side project.
One last thing, I want to use my social media (Facebook, Instagram etc) to help get me more dates, unfortunately as a fan of books & art I’m not sure how I can make that ‘sexy’ for women, any suggestions?
I’ve found that if I post my photos on Facebook & Instagram at once, my ‘likes’ are split... Does this make a difference? I have twice as many people on Facebook to Instagram & a fair bit of crossover, but some are on one or the other.
Is there a way to balance it as otherwise loads like my photos on Facebook, then I look like a Billy no mates on IG ha! What do you guys do? Thanks guys, any help is super appreciated!
I never used to be like this, but this last 18 months I was laid off from my job (a pretty important one with the Ministry of Defence), my sister died, my dad got cancer & a bunch of other things happened that knocked me back. I’m not making excuses, it’s all me, & I’ve realised I became needy/clingy as I didn’t have enough other things to focus on.
I’m looking to break the cycle, I have a new job & a laser-like focus on what I want/where I want to go! I just don’t want to fall back into any old traps, I’m here to learn & be the best version of me I can be.
I’m dating a few different girls right now, but I truthfully have a touch of Asperger’s (I tell everyone & it’s never affected my chances with the ladies, one right now used to date a UK pop star) & don’t want to go too far from clingy/needy to being an aloof guy who appears ‘totally’ disinterested in any of the ladies, so any middle ground help would be appreciated.
Also, if possible I’d like to hit a ‘reset‘ button with some of the exes if possible... I’m still friendly with them & honestly don’t care if they’re not interested any more, there’s plenty more for me to focus on, but it’d be a fun side project.
One last thing, I want to use my social media (Facebook, Instagram etc) to help get me more dates, unfortunately as a fan of books & art I’m not sure how I can make that ‘sexy’ for women, any suggestions?
I’ve found that if I post my photos on Facebook & Instagram at once, my ‘likes’ are split... Does this make a difference? I have twice as many people on Facebook to Instagram & a fair bit of crossover, but some are on one or the other.
Is there a way to balance it as otherwise loads like my photos on Facebook, then I look like a Billy no mates on IG ha! What do you guys do? Thanks guys, any help is super appreciated!